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I need to vent a bit and could use some advice comrades (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 1 week ago by marl_karx@lemmygrad.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml

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In short, my situation is this: I had a son 3 years ago right after I finished school. I went to study PolSci for a few semesters but got kicked out bc I got very depressive and couldnt even manage to get out of bed and buy food. Then I started studying Economics for 2 semesters but same problem.

Now I dont have anything, my gf and me broke off, I lost all friends bc of depression and dont have a job or any job education. I'm 24 and went back to living at my mom's house. I don't really know what to do now, it is very hard to find a job or an apprenticeship, I feel like a deadbeat (which I probably am tbh). I started taking antidepressants but the depression is just too strong sometimes.

I feel so ashamed of myself bc I have no job and no job education and don't know how I should continue. I'm not suicidal or anything, but I am beginning to lose hope that I will ever be able to feel happy again and the loneliness is killing me.

Any advice would be much appreciated :)

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[–] opiumfree@lemmygrad.ml 5 points 1 week ago

you are so young to be a parent. i dont think the kid will resent u in the future if ure absent right now if u do get involved in the future, he will get it.

what i would do right now is reach out to an old friend or 2. idk if u remember this but u lowkey made fun of me 2 days ago and i dont resent u for it and im just a stranger, theres no way ur IRL friends dont care about you even if u lost the connection. just tell them ure struggling and need a distraction. dont ask them for pity or anything, just offer to go out to catch up. if any of your friends have kids, tell them about your situation. despite what the internet makes u think people have an evolutionary instinct to help parents in need

it goes without saying u should ask ur mom for help, but if u dont get along like that of course disregard it

u could also look into social programs. maybe its because im disabled and dont rly have an option but theres no shame in using the resources u have available.

as for the college, i dont know if ure in the US and have to deal with that debt or how that works, but if its possible u really should look into going back if it would make u happy. we BADLY need more communists in political science and many other facets of life and an educated communist helps the movement and gives u credibility. with that being said, it doesnt have to be a priority right now.

i know that this is easier said than done bc it takes funds but u should look into therapy if u dont already go. and also, importantly, make sure ur meds are right and look into changing them if something comes up, something to keep in mind

this is the advice i have. after u secure a connection it will become a ton easier to navigate ur feelings and find a way out and be in the babys life