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I said men have experienced this pattern. That's not an absolute statement, but you claiming that it never happens is.
I'm not making assumptions, you revealed it yourself.
I'm not a danger to women either, but that doesn't stop women from thinking I might be. The whole point of the man vs. bear thing is that women can't exactly know whether man is dangerous just by looking at him. That's true, but I disagree with the apparent conclusion that people tend to draw from it, which is to assume every man is dangerous by default. In what other situation is it ever okay to make sweeping, prejudicial assumptions about an entire category of people based on an overgeneralization?
If you don't think that's a thing that happens, then apparently you didn't pay much attention to the discourse, so I wonder how much actual introspection and listening to women you even do...
I was saying this absolute statement is false:
This is not your comment and that's on me—i apologize (i subconsciously ignore usernames).
Please quote me where I said it never happens, btw
You make the assunption that I'm extraordinarily attractive, cool, or accepted-by-my-peers, which is hilariously untrue.
You're asking me when is it ever acceptable to take caution as the vulnerable party? Surely you're joking.
Also, cops. lol ACAB
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I pay a lot of attention to the discourse, it just doesn't affect me because I'm not a creep.
Lots of men, ugly and uncool included, are still befriending and dating women (even the creeps). You are free to approach the situation however you want.
But don't listen to me—woe is you, i guess.