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No, they're introverts and therefore have to weigh every social interaction with how much of their emotional labor/mental energy they want to spend on it.

Think of it this way: as an introvert, you start the day with 10 spoons. Every time you talk to someone, you lose a spoon. How many spoons are you willing to give up to Frank and his play by play on what your other coworker is doing right now (you know, the coworker that's also sitting next to you both)? Maybe you'd rather use those spoons on playing with your kids.

In this nonsense scenario, extroverts start the day with 0 spoons but generate a spoon whenever they socially interact because extroverts regain emotional/mental energy through social interaction. In theory, you could game the system by having two extroverts talk to each other every moment of the day to create infinite spoons and start your own silverware company.

Some people make it into a personality trait, definitely.

I'm in the "no small talk" camp. I at least try to not be a cunt at first. But I have no problems firing back.

I imagine many people in the group though just really don't want to be bothered and being sharp with someone is usually a fast way to end that bother. They may not be cunts on the regular, they may just not want to be involved with the other person.

I agree that the other person was being cunty though. That condescending "sweet summer w/e" shit is rude af unless it's done to be silly.