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[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I think the comment was meant to sum up a sentiment, not as a quote.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 5 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Nope, they meant specific posts. This one included. There is no anti-men sentiment here, and if there is I would love to see examples.

[–] prettybunnys@piefed.social 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (3 children)

This post is an example.

It starts by othering men, then comparing how their identity is an only a social construct and how silly is it that only men have this word.

Like, it directly does this.

Idk how anyone can see these posts and not recognize that?

“Only a man can …”

This reads like “men are silly and fragile lol look at them” instead of something uplifting.

There is a discussion that can be had about this that doesn’t necessitate othering anyone.

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

No it doesn't.

Masculinity is a social construct. And it varies across cultures, time and social groups.

Masculinity is not an identity. Male is an identity. Masculinity is a societal behaviour set.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

No, you said that. It does not directly say that if you need to take a long walk to get to the point you're making. And repeatedly try to convince peoole that's what it says.

[–] prettybunnys@piefed.social 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

You and one other user (on multiple accounts) are actively arguing my point and you’re right you baited me into arguing with you when I ought not waste my time.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago

We aren’t baiting or tricking you. This is called a conversation.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 3 points 1 week ago

I'd ask you to point out where I baited you if I didn't think it'd be just as nonsensical as your interpretation of this post. Also, you commented first. I replied.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago

You omitted the context in the post and projected your own interpretation onto it.

That’s not what the image says.

Not all men feel their identity is rooted in being masculine. No one here is calling it silly.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

There are no examples. That user signaled to the men of Lemmy that they’re standing up against the evil misandrists in here and they’ve got their pats on the back now.

God forbid women and femmes have a space where we can talk about what we want without having to look over our shoulder for men and their opinions on our lives.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

It's funny. I hear people say we bash men all the time but no one's given an example yet.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

There was an entire thread in AskLemmy dedicated to calling this community misandrists a few weeks ago. Men on Lemmy seem to get very bothered when women gather on our own.

I haven’t seen an example either.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I remember. You were there arguing circles around them.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Oh yeah, I took great offense to the mischaracterization of this place.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Since then it seems like women or people pretending to be women have taken it upon themselves to call us out on all the things men imagine we do when they're not around.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Joke’s on them, we’re just vibing in here lol

It was pretty telling when that other user could only link back to this conversation and we’re simply nerding out about societal constructs.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 2 points 1 week ago

Maybe they think intellectual discussions are misandrist when they exclude men.

[–] prettybunnys@piefed.social 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah, lots of folks incapable of recognizing when the slope has slipped

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Still waiting for all this man hate you’ve claimed this community is nurturing.

Pretty easy to claim something and then nope out when asked about your claim.

[–] prettybunnys@piefed.social 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

You’re using multiple accounts to comment on my comments, presumably to try to get around having been blocked.

So far a blahaj and shitjustworks account.

You’re violating this communities rules. Please back off

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 week ago

R e l a x

I have two accounts because I use a different instance on my pc vs my phone. You can check my mod log, no bans being evaded here.

We’re in the same exact thread.

You just don’t like being called out for casting this entire community as man haters.