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It just bothers me when the media and government uses this language. Posted my garden because it made me post a photo for some reason.

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[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I will counter slightly - they do use terms like "underage men" or "underage fighters" in media when speaking about the some of the atrocities in the ME. There are also plenty of women pedophiles who get similar headline treatment "caught having sex with student" kind of statements. It's a similar intent though - it's meant to groom the public.

Language and word choices carry a lot heavier weight than most people realize.

[–] Formfiller@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Statistics for women pedophiles pale in comparison.

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 day ago

Oh clearly yes. But the language when describing the crime is similar to what the media uses for male pedophiles.

[–] Darkenfolk@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That doesn't make it any better though?

[–] Formfiller@lemmy.world 4 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago) (2 children)

It doesn’t but when 80%of women are survivors of various levels of SA and harassment it does seem like the problem is really lopsided to one side primarily being victims of this reality and the social systems and power structures that keep it continuing should be confronted.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 5 points 21 hours ago

It’s lopsided, but let’s not act like boys and men can’t be victims as well. There were plenty of boys abused through Epstein’s circles for example.

Confronting the social systems and power structures should be done to help all victims.

I was simply pointing out the language that media often uses to protect abusers.

[–] Bubbaonthebeach@lemmy.ca 3 points 21 hours ago

I agree that there is a much higher percentage of men that are predators than women, without a doubt. However I think for victims there is much less of a gap but men/boys are still expected to keep silent. I don't know if they reach the 1 in 3 stats for assaults that females are subject to, however I wouldn't be surpised to find it was 1 in 5 IRL (I think reported is 1 in 6). It seems many male pedophiles are equal gender abusers.