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It just bothers me when the media and government uses this language. Posted my garden because it made me post a photo for some reason.

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[–] MalReynolds@slrpnk.net 1 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (1 children)

Underage is the dominant term. Girl, boy, evil. Man, woman, does not apply here.

Consent is critical, but you have to be old enough, and in a free enough situation, to give it.

[–] hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Sorry Mal, this is a women's only space. We do not consent to you commenting here. Please put Kaylee on, we'd love to hear from her.

[–] MalReynolds@slrpnk.net 3 points 7 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

Fair cop, didn't pay adequate attention. Should I delete?

ETA: Wouldn't speak for Kaylee, She's her own person, whole and complete.

[–] AllNewTypeFace@leminal.space 50 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Black/minority boys are often promoted by the media to men when suspected of crimes.

[–] Formfiller@lemmy.world 19 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Ok so it seems that this sort of term is only used for nefarious purposes

[–] ChicoSuave@lemmy.world 10 points 21 hours ago

The sound of a dog whistle

[–] frustrated_phagocytosis@fedia.io 30 points 1 day ago (1 children)

16 year old girl who has sex with teacher/coach/mentor/creep = Young lady making choices. Aware of what she's doing. Using her "wiles".

16 year old who wants birth control = Child in need of protection from being sexualized. Victim of liberal treachery.

New: 18 year old looking for trans medical care = Not adult enough to get that type of care. Can be charged as adult for helping younger friend access the same care.

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 3 points 11 hours ago

Ever tried getting tubes tied before you've procreated?

A whole lot of men have to decide that you're serious and will never want children before you can get the procedure.

A hypothetical man that didn't exist (spoiler alert: and never would exist) had more weight in the decision for a tubal ligation than I did.

I WAS FUCKING THIRTY YEARS OLD!

[–] Bluefalcon@discuss.tchncs.de 13 points 22 hours ago

Young man, that's how they groom republican boys.

[–] PrimarilyPrimate@lemmy.world 11 points 22 hours ago

I am an underage senior citizen and I am here for my discount.

[–] kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 1 day ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

"Underage girls" is correct (if redundant). "Underage women" is an oxymoron intended to protect child molesters.

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I will counter slightly - they do use terms like "underage men" or "underage fighters" in media when speaking about the some of the atrocities in the ME. There are also plenty of women pedophiles who get similar headline treatment "caught having sex with student" kind of statements. It's a similar intent though - it's meant to groom the public.

Language and word choices carry a lot heavier weight than most people realize.

[–] Formfiller@lemmy.world 3 points 23 hours ago (2 children)

Statistics for women pedophiles pale in comparison.

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 23 hours ago

Oh clearly yes. But the language when describing the crime is similar to what the media uses for male pedophiles.

[–] Darkenfolk@sh.itjust.works 4 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

That doesn't make it any better though?

[–] Formfiller@lemmy.world 4 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (2 children)

It doesn’t but when 80%of women are survivors of various levels of SA and harassment it does seem like the problem is really lopsided to one side primarily being victims of this reality and the social systems and power structures that keep it continuing should be confronted.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 5 points 19 hours ago

It’s lopsided, but let’s not act like boys and men can’t be victims as well. There were plenty of boys abused through Epstein’s circles for example.

Confronting the social systems and power structures should be done to help all victims.

I was simply pointing out the language that media often uses to protect abusers.

[–] Bubbaonthebeach@lemmy.ca 3 points 19 hours ago

I agree that there is a much higher percentage of men that are predators than women, without a doubt. However I think for victims there is much less of a gap but men/boys are still expected to keep silent. I don't know if they reach the 1 in 3 stats for assaults that females are subject to, however I wouldn't be surpised to find it was 1 in 5 IRL (I think reported is 1 in 6). It seems many male pedophiles are equal gender abusers.

[–] LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 2 points 23 hours ago

All hail Grace Tame.