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[–] victorz@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone -5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

Ran into this same user in another thread defending a man calling women “bitches”.

I found the contrast between their support here and their views there interesting.

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Hello, I’m Tanis Nikana (she/her), I’m a photographer, a stand-up comic, a lesbian, and I try to do alright in the world.

This is who you’re talking to, trying to pick apart my views on the word “bitches,” which are complex and nuanced.

It’s nice to meet you!

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Did I say something that was untrue?

I do find your defense of calling women “bitches” more interesting after seeing your comments in this thread.

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Oh, I was just introducing myself. Now you know who I am! I’m bitches.

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone -1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

lol you’re clearly not just introducing yourself when you take such a defensive stance on my opinion that “bitch” is a slur that has a time and place.

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone -3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

You replied to my comment, what do you want?

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 10 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

I want the Thai food I just ordered, should be here in a moment.

But as for you and me, we’re two people with conflicting opinions on the word “bitches.” Both of us are presumably leftist and our ballots would likely be identical.

Good talk.

EDIT: hell yeah

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 days ago

I agree and I thought we had agreed to disagree otherwise.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (2 children)

That does sound curious. Makes me curious of the context as well. They sound pretty level headed from the comments here, so I'm hoping it's a misunderstanding.

[–] wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The context was it was a shitpost about a lesbian who's never been kissed, and no one knew OP's gender, so Velma was assuming that while trying to manufacture outrage on a shitpost.

Meanwhile Tanis was basically self-identifying as "bitches," and Velma seemingly contradicted her own stance that it might be okay for women to "reclaim the slur" by shaming Tanis for being okay with using the term.

It was pretty convoluted, but ultimately there seemed to be no point and it gave the vibe that Velma was just looking for a moral pedestal to grandstand on...

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago

Thanks for that seemingly objective explanation.

Overall the person seems level headed and sincere in her feminist beliefs so I'm gonna give them the benefit of the doubt that it was either a misunderstanding or a temporary lapse in judgement. I know I've been misunderstood before on here, and had temporary lapses in my own judgement.

Some people mean well but are very quick to jump to confrontational mode, and assume the worst interpretation in what everyone says. I know a person like that. It can be very exhausting talking with them because you have to watch your words all the time, even when we share the same value framework... They just want to crush every single grain of the patriarchy so badly, and I get it. But sometimes it can get in the way of just normal conversation and banter.

[–] Starik@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago (2 children)

The context is that velma is a cantankerous (possibly troll) account.

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 days ago

Just a crotchety, cantankerous woman with strong opinions about equality.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

It doesn't seem like a troll account to me. Seems like she's just a very vocal feminist, strongly opinionated, and admittedly a confrontational person. But level headed and classy, still. They seem to just absorb insults into some kind of void. Quite impressive, actually. I didn't scroll very far into their comments, but a few pages gave me these impressions.

I got no issues, no qualms.

[–] Starik@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I think you’re right. About it not being a troll. The rest of your comment is very generous.

[–] victorz@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

I like to be generous. 🙂