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29 year old woman. A few times a week, on average, I'd say. Potentially multiple times in a day.
When I have a partner, I tend to do it way less though, because I find that the sex is way better if I refrain from masturbating. Orgasms from masturbation aren't particularly satisfying for me unless I try to do a whole build up that I rarely have the time or energy for.
Worth mentioning that autism makes my general sensory experience pretty weird โ I'm hypersensitive to most stimuli, and that also affects touch. This feeds into my above preferences in complex ways.
I also have a few physical disabilities that mean I'm less likely to be able to enjoy sexual pleasure as much unless I'm in the right mindset (i.e. chronic pain can distract from the physical pleasure).
It's possible that you're ahead of the curve when it comes to knowing what you like. I had a friend who was capable of reaching orgasm through masturbation, but it took so much effort that she rarely did it. Then she had a partner who helped her to figure out her own idiosyncratic preferences in terms of what she needed to reach orgasm, and that sparked a period where she "felt like a teenage boy" with how often she was masturbating. She was 32 at this point.
I have another friend who didn't even orgasm until she was 31 due to only having dated guys who were stereotypical straight dudes, which had calibrated her bar of what to expect super low (not just in what she expected from partners, but in terms of what sexual pleasure could feel like in general).
Another friend didn't masturbate at all until she was 28 (with the exception of some occasional pillow humping that she would feel tremendous shame about) due to religious trauma.
Unfortunately, the society we live in doesn't really equip women well to be able to come to understand our bodies and communicate our sexual needs. A lot of my friends in their 30s (especially the women) have said that they're loving their 30s way more than their 20s because of this kind of thing. 30 is still relatively young, so maybe (likely in addition to a naturally higher libido) you just have figured out what you like sooner than your friends have. Maybe some of them are yet to have an awakening of some sort, and the average rate of masturbation will be higher in a few years.