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When I was a teenager and early 20s, a few times a day, tbh. Holy shit, when I was a teenager, i was so fucking horny, like all the fucking time. then my twenties were the same, my thirties were very very different. these days? Almost never anymore. Just don't have a libido anymore :/ I am a bit of an old codger though. So maybe that explains it?

personally, 3-4 times a day.

that's mostly because the world is going to shit and I need that dopamine boost.

could be ADHD and a lack of dopamine

20s male. Generally once per day but I find it's easier and easier to forget and I sometimes go a week without thinking about it. I rarely if ever do 2. I've gotta cool down for 20 minutes between, which gives a lot of time to realise I should be doing something else.

1-2 daily sounds totally within normal range.

normal to do it a few times a day.

32M single, at least once a week. But there are periods where I get super horny and do the deed several days in succession (once per day, probably 3 days a week), these usually happen every 1-2 months.

After seeing the replies here I wonder if my libido is lower than average.

Enough to take the edge off, not so often it interfers with your life. The number will be different for every person and different at every stage of life for a person.

Some days I don't do it but im getting old. Admitadely you need some privacy unless you are intentionally sharing the experience. I have used it to reduce pain with medical things and then it was a lot as it does not last all that long.

I think it averages out to once a day, maybe once and a half.

On weekdays mostly in the evening, sometimes in the morning, some days not at all. On the weekends often twice a day. Sometimes three or even four a day, but that happens only if I'm using toys, just manually it feels a bit raw after two.

32, male, happily single.

Middle aged male. Depends on what's going on in life. Usually once every couple of days. Sometimes go a couple of weeks or more without. Other times multiple shots per day.

29 year old woman. A few times a week, on average, I'd say. Potentially multiple times in a day.

When I have a partner, I tend to do it way less though, because I find that the sex is way better if I refrain from masturbating. Orgasms from masturbation aren't particularly satisfying for me unless I try to do a whole build up that I rarely have the time or energy for.

Worth mentioning that autism makes my general sensory experience pretty weird — I'm hypersensitive to most stimuli, and that also affects touch. This feeds into my above preferences in complex ways.

I also have a few physical disabilities that mean I'm less likely to be able to enjoy sexual pleasure as much unless I'm in the right mindset (i.e. chronic pain can distract from the physical pleasure).

It's possible that you're ahead of the curve when it comes to knowing what you like. I had a friend who was capable of reaching orgasm through masturbation, but it took so much effort that she rarely did it. Then she had a partner who helped her to figure out her own idiosyncratic preferences in terms of what she needed to reach orgasm, and that sparked a period where she "felt like a teenage boy" with how often she was masturbating. She was 32 at this point.

I have another friend who didn't even orgasm until she was 31 due to only having dated guys who were stereotypical straight dudes, which had calibrated her bar of what to expect super low (not just in what she expected from partners, but in terms of what sexual pleasure could feel like in general).

Another friend didn't masturbate at all until she was 28 (with the exception of some occasional pillow humping that she would feel tremendous shame about) due to religious trauma.

Unfortunately, the society we live in doesn't really equip women well to be able to come to understand our bodies and communicate our sexual needs. A lot of my friends in their 30s (especially the women) have said that they're loving their 30s way more than their 20s because of this kind of thing. 30 is still relatively young, so maybe (likely in addition to a naturally higher libido) you just have figured out what you like sooner than your friends have. Maybe some of them are yet to have an awakening of some sort, and the average rate of masturbation will be higher in a few years.

Have you considered that the friends might be insincere about their own frequency too? In many societies masturbation is considered shameful. Even when people admit they do it, they might not want you to think they do it "too much".

Trans woman. My libido is less assertive when I'm on feminising hormones. I can kinda forget to and maybe only do it once every few days. Whenever I go off HRT for any reason and my T rises, my penis usually tells me what we're going to do first thing in the morning and before bed.

I don't think "normal" is a helpful frame of mind here. Maybe "healthy" is a better way to see it : does it make you feel good ? Does it feel like a healthy part of your life ? I don't want to decide for you, but from your other comments it seems like it probably is.

I would call it a problem if it becomes an obsession, if it takes time away from other things you want to do, if you do it so much you hurt yourself... Etc.

From what I gathered, it's weird if you don't stop for food, or in public. Other than that it's more or less normal.

As much as you want to is normal. Suppressing your libido to fit in is not normal.

38 male. 1-3 times per day.

It's more commonly once per day as I get older, and the drop in libido is welcome. My partner only wants sex once per week, and she thinks I'm crazy (though she does come 1-4 times when we do have sex, and I only come 1-2 times, so that might explain it)

I wish I could find another partner with a higher libido, because it's a strain on our relationship.

Every day or every other day i would say is normal. Depending on time availability.

I’m married so very rarely plus early 40’s so that sex drive is much less then it used to be