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Women filter things through their emotions and feelings.
As such, if their emotions and feelings don’t sit right, the truth must be wrong and needs to be changed to fit their feelings.
You then become the villain if you continue to debate from a position of factual truth and evidence, because that violates her internal narrative. And she becomes angry because she thinks that if only you cared about how she felt, you would change your facts to better fit her feelings.
So obviously, you are the toxic and evil one.
No amount of facts, logic, reason, or rationality can touch even the most reasonable of women to the same degree it can convince an average man. And I am saying this as a married man. I have learned this by painful experience.
The only way to ever debate or negotiate with a woman is to reframe her emotions and feelings such that facts and evidence just happen align with it; trying to argue from a position of pure facts and evidence in order to demonstrate the correct choice leads to a near-100% failure rate if her feelings do not agree.
Sure, there are some men who completely ignore facts and evidence, but that arises out of conservative/right-wing ideology - typically Christian-based - which invariably requires the rejection of reality in order to even exist. And there are also men who are led around by their noses by their own emotions and behave like women, but - again - it is an external imposition on them by way of them having been forcibly denied a father figure to learn from when they were younger. So they copied the adult women around them, instead.
Do you enjoy being alone?
Everyone does this. Everyone. If you're about to say you don't, you're lying to yourself. Humans are emotional beings we interpret things emotionally.
I won't bother responding to the rest because it's the world view of someone blinded by their own bitterness and anger.
Except that I am not alone. As I mentioned, I am married. 30 years with the same woman as of this year.
What I wrote is direct, real-world experience dealing with many different women in many different capacities over the decades.
Try being autistic. There are variants that experience almost no ego to speak of, where reactions are facts first regardless of how the person feels about something.
Plus, mature men have learned that operating through emotion is a negative-sum game to themselves, and that the best tactic to dealing with anything that affects them personally is via facts, evidence, logic, and reason. That involving emotions at any initial stage causes significant societal backlash because a man demonstrating any significant emotions, especially vulnerable ones, is seen as a weak and unreliable man that cannot be trusted to support others.
Ah, nice combination of sour grapes and an ad hominem. Not exactly the most original path, seeing as how often it’s used to shame men into silence, but it’s invariably the only tool left to those who have no possible counter-argument.
Ok boomer
A decade too young for that.
But at least I have eyes to see, ears to hear, and a thinking mind to process real-world evidence and facts. I’m not blinkered by ideological ignorance.
And a second ad hominem, too. You want to go three-for-three, or have you demonstrated sufficient intellectual bankruptcy for now?
Uh, that's everyone. Its very unusual to not be doing that, and it takes a lot of practice and patience to hold space for your emotions to pass and to understand how they affect your reasonability and to compensate for that in your judgements.
Like for example, after reading this opening sentence of your comment, it is difficult for me to not disqualify the rest of what you are saying as ignorant before I actually read it. I have to observe my emotion and then take a read after that feeling begins to ebb.
And so after pausing and reading the rest of your comment, I see you as someone who rationalizes their feelings to frame a narrative.
Womanish, as referred, in your world view. Hypocritical and lacking self-awareness.
And among psychologists, what I have said is well-established. In particular, you might want to review a very metaphor-filled but absolutely accurate description of the differences between men’s and women’s brains.
Notice the reference to emotions? Women run on them. In men, it’s incidental. It can be there, but we are punished very readily by society if it’s front-and-centre in the same way.