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tell that to any woman in the use asking to be sterilized, crazy the hoops you have to jump through, our outlook is so ass backwards
and I imagine in a controlling relationship, birth control would be hard to hide
That's entirely about finding the right doctor. I've known men who were refused a vasectomy because "you'll want kids later and it isn't always reversible" and were asked to get a consent form signed by their wife. Both are things that are common "hoops" women go through when trying to get a conservative doctor to do a hysterectomy or tubal ligation.
My wife actually brought me with her to the doctor's appointment where she asked for her hysterectomy "just in case" and the doctor asked why she brought me with her and I kind of sheepishly answered "moral support." She had seen every other gyno in the area and had problems with all of them, ranging from ignoring her issues to doing a uterine biopsy using a kevorkian punch (look it up, it's designed to be inserted, and then essentially a metal claw on the business end gouges out a piece of tissue to sample) with no pain relief of any kind on the grounds that "it's less painful than childbirth". Most of them were women (including the one that did the uterine biopsy), the one who did her hysterectomy was one of the only men.
Ya I had an exgf who had a kid with pretty severe ms. The poor little dude barely made his 9th birthday. Apparently she carries the gene, I'm not sure the exact details. But the risk that any other children she had would be afflicted was too high. She had to go to 6 Drs before she found one that would tie her tubes. Absolutely ridiculous
yep pretty much this
It is fucked how much easier it is to get a vasectomy than a tubal litigation.
And it's stupid how hard a vasectomy can be to get if you're younger and living in a red state where most of the hospitals are run by one or two catholic establishments.
Thankfully I managed it, but not until I was older.
Edit: Not discounting how difficult it is to get any kind of reproductive healthcare in this same situation. Just saying that it's not necessarily easier. I had a girlfriend who badly needed a hysterectomy, but she was 27 and MiGhT wAnT a KiD SomEdAy, this (female) doctor literally told me to get her pregnant and I said "Ma'am this isnt that kind of relationship, maybe you should consider doing your job" which she eventually did, but what's a few extra months of suffering, right?
yep the doc wanted my permission for her op like wtf
Yeah it's still an issue now, but there are more options than back then.
It's very hard to hide birth control and it can be tampered with easily. I've heard of men microwaving their partner's birth control pills, poking holes in condoms, even forcing their partner to remove IUDs.
:( that’s crazy