rust does a great job, however there are some inconsistentcies where a lot of memory allocations can throw out of memory errors that will crash the app

That is not an "inconsistency". Crashing the application when you run out of memory is honestly in almost all cases the correct call and crashing is memory safe. Most applications can do absolutely nothing when running out of memory. "Handling" OOM is extremely complicated and most applications simply cannot handle it in any way.

Of course low level stuff needs to sometimes actually handle this, but it's mostly an operating system thing. And Rust still allows you that control, it's just not the default behavior of the collections and such in the standard library, because again, it almost never makes sense to try to handle OOM. But if you really need that behavior, you can have it.