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A couple weeks ago I went to do some work at a home I have worked at many times in the past over multiple years. Their family has increased in size since last time I was there - they have three kids now. As the woman was cutting a check for the work I finished, I made an offhand comment about having her hands full with the kids. She then told me she had a nanny for the kids but she recently found out that the nanny was deported back to Zacatecas Mexico, and how she was looking for help again and how it was just so hard to find good help and now she had to do all the hard work her self.
The personal nanny thing is something I don't understand. But I'm lucky enough to be able to have my kids go to a nice daycare in town. The dynamic of having a nanny watching the kids in your home really gives "the help" vibes for obvious reasons. I don't think I've ever heard someone talk about their nanny without it giving off bad vibes. Well off enough to employ a whole person to watch your kids, but not well off enough to have someone not work and do the job themselves. I think about that episode of Atlanta about the white family who has the nanny sometimes and have to imagine that's what its like.
In Guatemala nannies are usually indigenous, dark brown, or black women hired by the wealthy white elites who talk about them like they’re pets
This attitude was one of the more humane ones among Russian aristocrats before the revolution. In certain cases things were much worse
It was a very awkward moment, the twenty seconds or so after she complained about no nanny. I just sort of looked at her face to face, and said 'have a nice day' and left.
It's absolutely fucked, having a stranger come to your home, and rear your children for you. For whatever reason.