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I literally just got fucking scolded and told I have some "accountability for my behavior" or whatever because I replied to someone who was insulting me, defaming my character, and lying about me with "Fuck you, you lying piece of shit." This isn't the first time this has happened, and it's always in these anarchist/"radical" mutual aid groups. I was flabbergasted. It was like I was on some other planet.

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[–] SerialExperimentsGay@hexbear.net 37 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I've seen that happen as well, both in anarchist and in less ideologically focussed / more liberal-leaning queer communities. There can be some pretty hardcore ostracism mechanics going on in self-organized groups with hidden, clout-based hierarchies. It's also always coming from a specific kind of person in my experience, i've learned to recognize their vibe and watch out for them. I find it hard to put into words, but some folks, they're like a live wire when it comes to this stuff.

[–] Hyper_red@hexbear.net 35 points 1 week ago (2 children)

some "socialists" or "leftists" want to be cult leaders and use "organizing" as their way of fulfilling their fantasy

Ive seen a lot of queer people use queer organizing as a way to create toxic polycules which take over the org which is sus

[–] purpleworm@hexbear.net 29 points 1 week ago (1 children)

When education is not liberatory, the dream of the oppressed is to become the oppressor

[–] SerialExperimentsGay@hexbear.net 12 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I've seen this mostly from sex negative transmisogynist transmascs who will slutshame trans women at every opportunity, but besides that, i recognize a lot of the behaviors described ITT

[–] LeninWeave@hexbear.net 33 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

There can be some pretty hardcore ostracism mechanics going on in self-organized groups with hidden, clout-based hierarchies.

The Tyranny of Structurelessness, by Jo Freeman.

[–] allthetimesivedied2@hexbear.net 22 points 1 week ago (2 children)

What if instead of Jo Freeman it was Jo Fremen.

[–] MemesAreTheory@hexbear.net 8 points 1 week ago

I'll take Jo Stalin, personally

[–] ufcwthrowaway@hexbear.net 6 points 1 week ago

When an anarchist is writing an essay on the need for structure, you'd better listen to her!