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[–] white_nrdy@programming.dev 10 points 3 days ago

And just to retail workers

Same goes for restaurant workers. We were at one of our favorite nice restaurants, sitting at the bar. It was busy, so it was slow. That makes sense. It's 1830 on a Friday. No big deal, we were sitting at the bar, they're busy. There was this older couple (50-60?) Who were just bitching. Complaining that things were taking longer than they felt they should. Some gems.

  • "These steamed buns were terrible", meanwhile their plates were scraped clean.
  • "This bottle of prosecco isn't good. I'm not paying for it...." While they were 3/4 through it. Then they finished the bottle.

The husband berrated the bartender who (one of three or four) who was busy all night. We've had her and she's lovely. Berated her for service taking too long, and apparently how she had left for a while, and how that was unacceptable. I'm guessing she left to, ya know, eat dinner and take her break.

They were complaining about how bad of an experience it was. But stuck around for 20m after they paid the check...

After they left, another group took their spots, and we overheard them shit talking them multiple times. The bartender looked visibly upset while she was working. Eventually Audrey told her that it was shitty how he treated her. Turns out she was thinking about it all night after (this was 1.5 hours later). We assured her they were just shitty and that we've had an amazing time everytime we've been there.