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Tips to vet whether a person you are dating or know might be working for ICE? (lemmy.world)
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I think it would be good for the community and people in the US to have ways to make sure they’re not creating relationships with ICE agents. If the community doesn’t want it all good. and obviously not meant to profile people.

  1. Obviously we know some names of agents who have murdered people: Jonathan Ross, Brian Palacios, Jesus Ochoa, Raymundo Gutierrez
  2. I presume they’d be pretty conservative and machismo. Maybe have some blue lives stickers on their truck.
  3. Maybe tattoos, specifically Punisher. Could be police also.

What else could you use to sniff out if somebody is ICE if they’re hiding it from you?

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[–] currycourier@lemmy.world 44 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I think just getting to know someone and judging them based on who they are is a lot more important. Rather than trying to suss out someone's group affiliations (like if they are part of ICE), why not simply pay attention to how they treat others and the kind of actions they take when faced with challenges? They will naturally show their embodied values and beliefs, and you can then make an informed decision on whether you want to associate with that person or not.

Essentially I think we should be judging people individually. Rather than trying to figure out what kind of person someone is based on their aesthetic choices like stickers or tattoos, see if they treat others with compassion. Everyone makes mistakes and does bad things sometimes, but the people worth sticking around usually recognize when they do, feel remorse, and work on it.

[–] eldavi@lemmy.ml 17 points 1 day ago (1 children)

i learned this lesson recently. she had a no-ice, no-racism, no-homophobia, pro-choice sign on her establishments door and also had an isreali gay pride themed flag inside.