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I suspect the lack of experiences of being with or even having a significant other is what drove the majority of these bastards to this proto-SA. Where they can be powerful grunt grunt and dress up in GI cosplay. There is this lordofthefliesification that takes place when all these frustrated men get together. Anyways, that's why I suspect this is almost a trick question. How can you detect if you're dating an ICE prick? You won't have to. Chances are they are socially very awkward, behaviorally weird and therefore undatable. It's this quality that set them on an authority loving, very likely misogynic, for various reasons chronically underfucked path in life where they thought hunting and terrorizing innocent people and shooting them if they can get away with it is a great career choice. It shows.
This is generally why I don't like this social isolation of conservatives. It leads then to extremes. You don't need to date them, but you can be friends with them.
A lot of them were raised in cults (I was). After I got out, I housed this guy who was hard right, but talked with him, cleaned his guns with him and now he's doing better. He was just traumatized from a hard childhood.
And honestly, shooting guns, riding 4 wheelers and other conservative things are fun.
Would you agree though that there is a qualitative difference here? Platonically befriending a person and having an intimate, probably sexual relationship with a person are two different scenarios. And the question was about dating in particular. I'll have a much easier time trying to humor a person I don't share a bed with. People tend to not take one for the team to get them over their misogyny.
Yeah, that's why I suggested it. The guy I housed softened, left the military and now just works in a hospital. Had we not befriended him, he'd probably be ICE now.
Also I wouldn't call it humoring. Just actually being his friend. He's human too and it's not his fault he was raised in a shitty environment. He was never show any alternative way to live