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How do you grow your hair out without going crazy? What should I show/tell my stylist? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 3 days ago by FernPlant@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/trans@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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For the past few years I've been keeping my hair short but recently I decided to start growing it out. I haven't had actually long hair in years and I completely forgot how much of a pain in the ass growing your hair out is, especially when it's just long enough to get in your way but not long enough to do anything with. All of this isn't even getting into the dysphoria aspect. I just want to have an androgynous hairstyle that's long but I really don't know what to aim for and how to avoid it being too fem/too masc. Does anyone have any tips? Any suggestions for what to tell/show to my friend who's a stylist and cuts my hair? My hair is very straight and kind of a mullet currently. Just at my eyes in the front and down to the base of my neck in the back, the sides go a little past my jaw. I also have an undercut. My goal is to be androgynous and at least try to avoid the constant misgendering I get from trans and cis people alike.

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[–] FernPlant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I do have a good relationship with my stylist, and I did try to do that last time but it got really awkward and I genuinely didn't know what to ask them for. I kind of just said that I wanted to grow my hair out, wanted the front to be shorter, and wasn't 100% sure beyond that. I'll probably try telling them the stuff I've said in this post next time I go but I just wish I had some sort of clear goal. I look online for inspiration but I've struggled to find images of people that have any kind of longer hairstyle I'd want and have the hair texture for.

[–] Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I can so understand that! I find it extra hard when trying to visualize how certain styles will look with my particular face too. I've brought inspiration to mine and she'll take the time to explain how my features might not flow the same way while suggesting alternatives.

I think trying one or two more times, including the details you've shared here, is a good idea 🩷 other than that, Pinterest and IG are great places for inspiration. It might help you find images of styles that have aspects of what you're looking for and see if they can bring them together (this length, with that shape, and this silhouette, etc)

[–] FernPlant@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 days ago

That's fair, I'll definitely try that. I just haven't had any luck looking online for inspiration, all of the images I see when looking up androgynous long hair are either women with not terribly androgynous hair styles or the same exact 3 men with long curly hair that kinda look like Timothee Chalamet. I despise ig with a passion but I'll try checking there for people with the hairstyle I like, and I haven't touched pinterest in years so I might make an account and check there.