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how do you deal with a breakup? (hexbear.net)

submitted 1 day ago by Bisexual_Cookie@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

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I am not sure this is the right place but my girlfriend recently broke up with me through whatsapp, she was not clear why beyond saying I was putting to much pressure on her to meet in person when she couldn't and that I didn't want to listen. I am not looking for advice about that, I accept her choice to break up and she asked me not to be in contact for a while, which I have/will also do.

I am posting here because it really really hurts, and I feel like my entire world is collapsing around me. I am trying to reach out to what IRL friends I have to meet up but I feel so isolated and alone and I am just not sure what to do. The entire situation made me feel so powerless and alienated. The person that I thought I knew would never have done it this way and would have tried to solve it with me. And she never gave any signs before she made the decision, it was clearly something she had in her mind for a while but she even told me she loved me 2 days before she broke up, she was planning stuff to do, making things for my mom,... it just sucks

Idk Ig i am just looking for comfort :)

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[–] insurgentrat@hexbear.net 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Just gonna echo the sentiment that loss hurts, and time softens the edges.

There's not really anything to do - our hearts break, the sun rises, breakfast needs making. Stuff it going to be harder for a while, little things might set you off. All I would really say is avoid ruminating, there's no realisation you can have or analysis to complete that will make it not hurt.

To that end, try spend some time on things that keep you occupied enough to avoid spiraling that leave room to process and feel.

The cruelest and kindest thing is that no loss is so great that time won't help.