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How can I wear a skirt at work if I'm not religious? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 days ago by Caesium@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Sorry for the weird question, don't know how else to word it. Basically I'm job hunting and I'm realizing the dress code is gonna be an obstacle.

I exclusively wear skirts and dresses. Not for a religion -- I'm agnostic -- but for sensory reasons. I hate pants. I hate how they feel on my legs and I haven't worn them in almost 10 years now. I understand the need to wear pants for some jobs because they're ultimately safer than a flowy skirt, but one of the jobs I've applied to is a bank. I doubt the building is a skirt deathtrap behind the scenes.

Honestly the idea of having to wear pants is so upsetting I'm breaking down over it. It's so stupid but after I finally found a way to feel comfortable when I started wearing skirts, I don't think I can go back even if the job is better than my current one.

My only idea is to get some kind of doctors note but even that seems unlikely. Hoping for other ideas here.

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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 11 points 2 days ago

Are you a lady? I work in an office at a sports company (so sporty casual is common) and there are several women here who wear dresses and skirts not pants, several more who switch back & forth. Not me - pants feel much more secure to me - but it's nothing anyone really notices.

A man wearing skirts we would notice for awhile, not care but notice; if you are customer facing then you might encounter that surprise over and over, if not, I don't think it will be a big deal.