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Sorry for the weird question, don't know how else to word it. Basically I'm job hunting and I'm realizing the dress code is gonna be an obstacle.

I exclusively wear skirts and dresses. Not for a religion -- I'm agnostic -- but for sensory reasons. I hate pants. I hate how they feel on my legs and I haven't worn them in almost 10 years now. I understand the need to wear pants for some jobs because they're ultimately safer than a flowy skirt, but one of the jobs I've applied to is a bank. I doubt the building is a skirt deathtrap behind the scenes.

Honestly the idea of having to wear pants is so upsetting I'm breaking down over it. It's so stupid but after I finally found a way to feel comfortable when I started wearing skirts, I don't think I can go back even if the job is better than my current one.

My only idea is to get some kind of doctors note but even that seems unlikely. Hoping for other ideas here.

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[โ€“] daannii@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (2 children)

What religion requires people to wear dresses ?

I've never worked for an office that banned skirts or dresses.

Though one banned shorts after Labor Day.

I thought that was pointless.

Some people are large and sweaty. If they want to wear shorts in December. Why not?. Doesn't affect anyone else.

I hate stupid rules for stupid reasons.

[โ€“] cheers_queers@lemmy.zip 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

the fundie evangelical movement considers women who wear pants as crossdressing and therefore a sin.ย 

[โ€“] daannii@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's literally no where in the Bible. They just make up a bunch of b.s about anything and everything don't they ?

Like the rapture. That's also not in the Bible. Made up.

[โ€“] cheers_queers@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 day ago

oh i get it, believe me. growing up queer in that situation was actual hell. the verse they use is the one in leviticus saying men and women shall not dress like each other, and their reasoning was that pants are mens clothing (how quaint) lol

[โ€“] Deadrek@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago

First and only one I can think of, that would be working in a modern setting, is Pentecostal and specifically denim I think in their case.

Not sure if it's all Pentecostal or only certain sects or whatever.