For me it's kind of the opposite. I have always been extremely hard on myself in every area of my life and to some extent I still am. But realizing that some of the difficulties I'm dealing with may be due to me having undiagnosed ADHD, is such a relief. It doesn't fix me. It doesn't really change anything, but it gave me the ability to forgive myself for some of the things I'm not good at or fuck up.

Sometimes you do your best and it's not really good enough, but it was the best you could do and that is okay. Life is a bit easier to live when you accept that you are a turtle and not a bird, so you don't have to constantly try and learn how to fly.

[–] Rooster326@programming.dev 4 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose; that is not a weakness, but a part of life.

Jean Luc Picard

Word to live by.

[–] Nangijala@feddit.dk 2 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

Comforting words to remember as well. Have taken a lot of hits lately, mostly things that are entirely out of my hands as well, so this was nice to read. 🥲

At least I'm lucky in love and friendship, so yay!