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Flirting (lemmy.ml)

submitted 12 hours ago by electric_nan@lemmy.ml to c/askchapo@hexbear.net

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Hi friends. Is it fucked up to flirt with someone with no intention of taking it further? I'm in a long-term monogamous relationship. Sometimes I crave a little validation from strangers. I'm not going to cheat on my partner, but I do have a need to feel desirable to others. I don't feel like a bit of flirting is a betrayal of my relationship, but I'm less confident about how other people feel. Like, I don't want to waste someone else's time, but I guess maybe I am leading people on a bit if I chat with them without mentioning my partner.

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[–] Arahnya@hexbear.net 2 points 2 hours ago* (last edited 2 hours ago) (1 children)

I used to have this flirty interaction with a boy on the regular, I was gently teasing him by not complying with his job, and being like "aha, im not showing you my ID. teehee." nothing that was more than five seconds of interaction. Well, one morning he decided to ask me out and I had to tell him I had a boyfriend.

The people who observed this were telling me like "oh that's what you get" and I'm like ??? it's not like I was telling him I wanted to [invitation to redacted sexual act] or something geez. I wasn't out to hurt the dude or anything, but that is what ended up happening. 😅

[–] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 4 points 2 hours ago

your story sounds indistinguishable from signaling interest to me. he asked you out not to a hotel room, so unless you're leaving out a lot i'm not sure why you're going from 0 to sex act there.