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This is a very one-dimensional way of thinking about social interaction. People flirt for all sorts of reasons, not all of them even about sex/romance. You can't just narrow it down to a single purpose. But even within your narrow definition, you say yourself that flirting is about potential interest. It doesn't mean anything definite. Assuming that the person flirting with you wants to take it further isn't necessarily wrong, but they aren't abusing the social contract if they don't want to, even if it hurts your feelings. It certainly doesn't warrant calling them an evil vampire.
OP is describing a situation where there is no potential. i have said in multiple other comments that good-faith flirting has no obligation to continue.
the only thing some of us are asking is for people to not initiate from false pretenses.
There is no false pretense. It does not matter if they never intended to advance beyond that flirting, that does not make it bad-faith behavior. Your entire grievance with the OP is that you feel you are owed a chance with someone because they are flirting with you, and they don't owe you that at all.