askchapo

23247 readers

327 users here now

Ask Hexbear is the place to ask and answer ~~thought-provoking~~ questions.

Rules:

Posts must ask a question.
If the question asked is serious, answer seriously.
Questions where you want to learn more about socialism are allowed, but questions in bad faith are not.
Try !feedback@hexbear.net if you're having questions about regarding moderation, site policy, the site itself, development, volunteering or the mod team.

founded 5 years ago

MODERATORS

PorkrollPosadist@hexbear.net

replaceable@hexbear.net

VILenin@hexbear.net

SexUnderSocialism@hexbear.net

khizuo@hexbear.net

Wakmrow@hexbear.net

Flirting (lemmy.ml)

submitted 22 hours ago by electric_nan@lemmy.ml to c/askchapo@hexbear.net

96 comments fedilink hide all child comments

Hi friends. Is it fucked up to flirt with someone with no intention of taking it further? I'm in a long-term monogamous relationship. Sometimes I crave a little validation from strangers. I'm not going to cheat on my partner, but I do have a need to feel desirable to others. I don't feel like a bit of flirting is a betrayal of my relationship, but I'm less confident about how other people feel. Like, I don't want to waste someone else's time, but I guess maybe I am leading people on a bit if I chat with them without mentioning my partner.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments

[–] Le_Wokisme@hexbear.net 1 points 4 hours ago

euphemistic interaction is developed when forthrightness is taboo or dangerous. there's discourse about it not being safe to be forward in feminist literature, i don't understand where the incel jacketing is coming from.

if we didn't have slutshaming culture and men would reliably take no for an answer we wouldn't have invented the shitty neurotypical verbal dance.