All you can do is see if treatment helps or not, but if they are character flaws, but you have a desire to change them, and ADHD treatment helps you do that, then what does it really matter.

That's what I tell myself because I lived most of my life with a family that didn't believe in mental health issues and I was brainwashed that I was just a bad, flawed person. When it comes to the Autism its a different story because there is no treatment for adults and it's nearly impossible to get into the one clinic that offers diagnoses for adults, so I still struggle with believing I have it despite the big list of evidence I compiled and the fact that my neurodivergent friends always assumed I did and didn't know I didn't know. LOL