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Nobody gives two flying fucks about men. Women are put onto a pedestal and given preferential treatment in life, dating, academia, court systems, social services, and nearly everything else you can think of. Meanwhile men are told they are disposable and worthless and for some reason the cause of the worlds problems because of some misguided notion that the “patriarchy” rules everything when in reality it is a super minority of extremely wealthy men and women. Men build social order, liberal democracy, and nearly everything else women take for granted that let them live happy, healthy, and cozy lives.
With WaPo reporting a couple days ago that the “death gap” is widening yet again between men and women because men are suffering from more mental health issues stemmed by our current society, the fact that no one really cares is crazy.
Without men society collapses. Who is going to do all the real dirty jobs that keep the world moving. Highly doubt Becky from HR who can’t start every morning without complaining out loud his bad the coffee is and how cold it is in the office, will ever be working as a line man in sub freezing temps trying to get power back on when her husband dies from an early heart attack from dealing with her BS all day.
Let me start off by saying that as a 39 year old cis white guy, I have struggled with reconciling the gender based expectations I was raised with and the reality of the world. I won't lie - I have also grappled with the notion that I am part of the problem in part because of how some people opine on the matter.
This
and this
and this
is the patriarchy. The assumption that because they have been historically barred from equal treatment, women are inadequately equipped to participate equally is an inherent part of the problem and one which you and I can change for the better. Yes, a small number of extremely wealthy people are driving many of the levers of social inequality but the solution is not to turn on another group that's suffering under the same dehumanizing pressures. Acknowledging their struggles - like lacking bodily autonomy, or being shamed for being the victim of assault, or being punished professionally for raising a family - doesn't diminish or delegitimize your own struggles. Railing against them only serves to drive wedge issues that divide us so we have less ability to organize against the few that profit off of our disunity - don't do their dirty work for them.
Tl;dr - don't say sexist shit. It's not okay
Nobody is saying that women are inadequately equipped for those roles, they are observing that women don't choose those roles, even when barriers are removed. It's not a coincidence that everyone is clamoring to bring equity into the C suite and boost women enrolling in STEM programs, but nobody is trying to bring equity to mining jobs, janitorial services, garbage collectors, etc.
I've met plenty of women employed in trades and manual work for whom the misogyny and likelihood of assault from their male counterparts was and still is absolutely a barrier to their equal participation.
Name them? It’s easy to provide anecdotal evidence. I let tons of women who don’t go into trades because they think it’s lowly work for dumb expendable men.