126
choosing your own name should be the norm
(hexbear.net)
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
this post was submitted on 15 Jan 2024
126 points (100.0% liked)
chat
8215 readers
343 users here now
Chat is a text only community for casual conversation, please keep shitposting to the absolute minimum. This is intended to be a separate space from c/chapotraphouse or the daily megathread. Chat does this by being a long-form community where topics will remain from day to day unlike the megathread, and it is distinct from c/chapotraphouse in that we ask you to engage in this community in a genuine way. Please keep shitposting, bits, and irony to a minimum.
As with all communities posts need to abide by the code of conduct, additionally moderators will remove any posts or comments deemed to be inappropriate.
Thank you and happy chatting!
founded 3 years ago
MODERATORS
Lol yeah. I hated my given name my whole life, even before I decided I was trans.
I wonder how many cis people hate their names but never change it because it's not socially acceptable to do so.
The main thing stopping me is that I don't want to upset my parents. I don't dislike it that much either so it's not really a problem, but in the absence of that concern , I probably would change it.
I'm in a similar situation, it's a hard thing to tell your parents that you don't want the name they gave you, most parents will push back on it or outright refuse to respect it. It's an example of how unhealthy the nuclear family dynamic is in our culture.
Though I want to change my last name as well, but to my paternal grandmother's maiden name (which is also my current middle name) so I'm still keeping that one in the family.