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submitted 11 months ago by AlicePraxis@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net

I think that in a rational society everyone should feel free to choose their name, and doing so should be a normal and expected rite of passage.

It makes way more sense to choose the sound people make when they refer to you, than having your parents choose it for you before you're even a person yet.

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[-] dannoffs@hexbear.net 61 points 11 months ago

Its already kinda the norm if you're a g*mer.

[-] CloutAtlas@hexbear.net 44 points 11 months ago

XxX_SePh1r0tH_XxX is arguably a more acceptable name than Elon's kid tbh

[-] alexandra_kollontai@hexbear.net 36 points 11 months ago

trans women love this

[-] JohnBrownNote@hexbear.net 23 points 11 months ago

i have a hard enough time naming characters or picking online handles. i'd probably panic and name myself a poop joke.

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[-] PaX@hexbear.net 13 points 11 months ago
[-] Lerios@hexbear.net 10 points 11 months ago

"trans women already do this" "gamers already do this" "furries already do this"

same-picture

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[-] Great_Leader_Is_Dead@hexbear.net 11 points 11 months ago

Or a SoundCloud rapper

[-] Maoo@hexbear.net 54 points 11 months ago

Many cultures have had people choose their own names - or at least getting another one - after some kind of rite of passage to adulthood.

[-] ProfessorOwl_PhD@hexbear.net 43 points 11 months ago

In Worst Korea at about 10 or 11 years old kids choose their "English name" for foreigners to use. This is terrible in theory because of the colonial nature of refusing to pronounce Korean names properly, but hilarious in practice because it means you meet kids with names like "chocolate" or "cake" because it's something they like.

[-] oktherebuddy@hexbear.net 34 points 11 months ago

Asian people solidarity trans people: having inspired English names

Partner knew two Chinese dudes in college who roomed together and chose the names Action and Lancelot. Hard to beat that probably.

[-] Great_Leader_Is_Dead@hexbear.net 26 points 11 months ago

I'm imagining a Chinese cartoon about an American guy named Action Lancelot who rides a motorcycle and eats nothing but cheeseburgers.

[-] Raebxeh@hexbear.net 14 points 11 months ago

Action Lancelot and the Adventures of Burgerlandia

[-] D61@hexbear.net 9 points 11 months ago

NES game Clash at Demonhead has the main character's name as "BANG"

[-] ProfessorOwl_PhD@hexbear.net 15 points 11 months ago

I mean they had some terrible ones as well. The Korean woman who first explained it to me had chosen "Elizabeth" after the fucking Queen, so we all just used her Korean name instead.

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[-] ElGosso@hexbear.net 41 points 11 months ago

I would name myself Tyrannosaurus Sex

[-] Aryuproudomenowdaddy@hexbear.net 29 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

My youngest nephew was answering to Sonic for a while, I forget what middle name he picked.

[-] ElGosso@hexbear.net 15 points 11 months ago
[-] Aryuproudomenowdaddy@hexbear.net 13 points 11 months ago

Remember now, middle name was Finnigator.

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[-] ElGosso@hexbear.net 19 points 11 months ago

It would be polarizing, but decisive. And when people asked me if my name really was Tyrannosaurus Sex, I would say "hell yeah it is tofu-cool "

[-] SkibidiToiletFanAcct@hexbear.net 36 points 11 months ago

mrw I read the roster for my 8th grade class, and I see my students are "Abundance Of Onslaught, Falling Outside the Normal Moral Constraints, I Blame The Parents, The Usual But Etymologically Unsatisfactory, Of Course I still Love You, Fine Till You Came Along, But Who's Counting?, Grey Area, Uninvited Guest, and Prime Mover"

[-] DrBeat@hexbear.net 10 points 11 months ago

Banks' style is so satisfyingly recognisable here

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[-] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 36 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Yeah it would be cool if once you reach 18 you have a party where you chose a new name or something.

If only babies could chose their own names, would make life so much easier

[-] RedDawn@hexbear.net 22 points 11 months ago

I feel like now that I’m 30 something, I wouldn’t like whatever name I would have picked for myself at 18 lol

[-] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 12 points 11 months ago

Me too lmao

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[-] SpiderFarmer@hexbear.net 33 points 11 months ago

My dad almost named me Jethro but my mom talked him out of it. I got a green thumb and I listen to folk music. It would've been perfect.

[-] PaX@hexbear.net 24 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Based

The only people who call me my birth-assigned name are my parents, governments, debt collectors, etc lol

It's not even gender-related or anything. I just don't identify with that name at all

Doesn't even have to be a one-time thing even. People change a lot throughout their lives. If someone wants to change their name sometimes to reflect that, that should be okay

[-] AlicePraxis@hexbear.net 9 points 11 months ago

nice, I'm trying to get on that, if I ever start meeting people again. I don't like introducing myself with my given name so I'd like to start using my chosen name with new people even if I'm not comfortable telling my family. also making art under the new name might help the transition and I'm using it online in a couple places (not here tho)

my situation is somewhat gender related - or rather it's related to the fact that I don't have a gender hexbear-agender

[-] CloutAtlas@hexbear.net 23 points 11 months ago

No, my son is also named Bort.

[-] JohnBrownNote@hexbear.net 10 points 11 months ago

We are all Bort on this blessed day

[-] Babs@hexbear.net 21 points 11 months ago

This was how magic the gathering introduced their first trans character, and it was pretty cool. She was like from a tribe where they choose their names after their first victory in battle, so when it's her turn and she's like "I'm naming myself after my grandmother" everyone is like "ok yeah that's cool, you just killed a dragon who are we to question this"

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[-] AlpineSteakHouse@hexbear.net 16 points 11 months ago

Having to change the paperwork is a bureaucratic nightmare and should absolutely not be the normal.

Trans comrades get a pass as well as anyone who actively cares enough to change it but it is a mess of paperwork for everyone.

[-] AlicePraxis@hexbear.net 21 points 11 months ago

does it have to be a bureaucratic nightmare though? I mean in a society where this was the norm there might be a better system in place to address this

besides people do it all the time when they get married. straight women are still largely expected to change their last names due to bullshit patriarchal reasons but that's another issue

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[-] ilyenkov@hexbear.net 19 points 11 months ago

All official bureaucratic forms and stuff could just use an unchanging unique identifier (like the ones we already use: SSN, driver's license, etc.); and people vould change what they want other people to call them any time they wanted.

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[-] allthetimesivedied@hexbear.net 16 points 11 months ago

Lol yeah. I hated my given name my whole life, even before I decided I was trans.

[-] AlicePraxis@hexbear.net 18 points 11 months ago

I wonder how many cis people hate their names but never change it because it's not socially acceptable to do so.

[-] Saeculum@hexbear.net 8 points 11 months ago

The main thing stopping me is that I don't want to upset my parents. I don't dislike it that much either so it's not really a problem, but in the absence of that concern , I probably would change it.

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[-] Mardoniush@hexbear.net 13 points 11 months ago

Catholics stay winning.

[-] infuziSporg@hexbear.net 13 points 11 months ago

One given name for identification from birth onward

One self-selected name around adolescence

One surname for patriline

One surname for matriline

One surname for clan grouping

[-] Sprucie@feddit.uk 12 points 11 months ago

At what age should you choose though? I'm not sure I'd appreciate the name 1 year old me might pick for myself.

[-] shath@hexbear.net 21 points 11 months ago

your name is child or kid until you're 18 and fight a bear and survive

[-] wopazoo@hexbear.net 16 points 11 months ago

new year new name

[-] AlicePraxis@hexbear.net 15 points 11 months ago

there doesn't have to has to be a specific age, you can change it as many times as you'd like - or not at all, if you like the name your parents picked. most people would probably settle on something in their teens or 20s but everyone's different

really I'm just calling for a general cultural respect for a person's choice to self-identify, where we all agree to like, not make a big deal about it, ya know?

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[-] davel@hexbear.net 10 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

What happens on the playa unfortunately does not stay on the playa. How’d You Get Your Playa Name?

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[-] 7bicycles@hexbear.net 10 points 11 months ago

I think this is surprisingly agreeable with a lot of people (well, not like the frothingfash) on account of "why the fuck would the state get to decide what your name is"

[-] AssortedBiscuits@hexbear.net 10 points 11 months ago

I don't think the phenomenon of people bestowing a nickname on you will ever go away. And the concept of names in general is funny to me. Sure, I have a legal name that's tied to my professional name, but there are people in my life who don't address me by that name at all, and I would consider it an affront if they do. And I'm not talking about just having a shortened name or a different name. If someone in my life exclusively addresses me as "darling" or "honey" or "kid," is that not my actual name to them? My parents, like countless parents before them, refer to themselves as "mom" and "dad" when addressing their kids, and like many parents, they have gotten used to it so much they start to call each other "mom" and "dad" even when their kids are not around. I don't think I've ever heard my parents say their "actual" names to each other. As far as I'm concerned, my mom is named "Mom" and my dad is named "Dad." The names on their driver's licenses is just an identity of a life that is not relevant to me. They will always be "Mom" and "Dad" to me.

[-] invo_rt@hexbear.net 7 points 11 months ago

If anything, calling my parents by their actual names feels out-of-place to both my parents and me.

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