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submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by Raebxeh@hexbear.net to c/askchapo@hexbear.net

I’ve run across cis women making comments like this way too many times for it to not be A Thing. Usually it’s a reason given for them not being a lesbian. Something like, “I love boobs but vaginas are gross”. I’ve also seen it as a reason to not date trans men, but I feel like there’s something going on beyond standard genital preference discourse and the transphobia attached to that. Can someone explain this or am I just being weird?

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[-] Frogmanfromlake@hexbear.net 22 points 9 months ago

Not really in my country. We’re weird in that we’re socially repressed on paper due to the high level of Evangelicalism, but also very sexually liberated compared to the US.

From what I hear it’s not something they’re grossed out by but it’s like asking a straight guy why he doesn’t like dick. They just don’t find them sexually a rousing. I’m sure it differs from culture to culture.

[-] keepcarrot@hexbear.net 11 points 9 months ago

It is interesting that the US is so repressed while also having "hookup cum brained culture". Then again, I've seen an article about how fascism is also very sexually restrictive yet horny all the time

[-] culpritus@hexbear.net 13 points 9 months ago

The enemy is at the same time too uptight and too slutty.

[-] HiImThomasPynchon@hexbear.net 5 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Hookup cum-brain culture is a result of that repression, which is part of why it's so toxic. Addressing the repression is part of the work necessary to turn hookup cum-brain culture into ethical non-monogamy culture.

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