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How do you navigate dating and sex as a trans person?
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Basically, I only date other trans people.
For me, the cis/trans divide is too big when it comes to understanding each others experiences in the early stages of a relationship. Doubly so for non queer partners.
It's made more complicated by the fact that I'm panromantic, but heterosexual. So the majority of people I'm attracted to are people who have no personal relationship with their own queerness, yet they are the last people I want to be in a relationship with.
Yup, I mainly date queer people too. I pretty much only go for bi or pan women at this point. There's just an additional element of comfort that dating queer people provides.
Hey, cis straight guy in a relationship with a trans girl here and I wanted to chip in with my experience.
Yeah, early stages of the relationship are tough because you come from completely different backgrounds. With enough time and most importantly good communication however, that challenge can certainly be overcome.
Unfortunately, it's more than communication. Cishet men aren't queer, and that's a bit of a show stopper.