My initial Lemmy account is on another instance, and some reactions I have seen to Beehaw defederating it have me... Displeased. Maybe it's because I am an internet grandma who used to use three dozens phpbb forums at the same time, but protecting one's community is entirely fucking okay and the "snowflakes" talk is exhausting.
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100% agree and I just can't understand why so many are going nuts over it the way they are. They're so reactionary and ridiculous it makes me wonder if they read the actual reasons why (or even understood them.)
Aaaand that's why they're out. boot emoji
The reddit influx brings good but also redditors' usual bullshit along with it.
I love that beehaw is looking out for us and maintaining a space where it feels like people with differing opinions can actually talk about things with nuance and without feeling like they'll set off a landmine at any minute.
I'm still in disbelief, for some reason we can have a nice place here
The dumb part is Reddit could've had it too if they had a sane management/board of directors.
Don't let the bootlickers fool you that spez was just along for the ride and duped into modding shitty subreddits or keeping it open under the guise of free speech, he actively enjoyed that content too.
I think past 10 years social media has been “grooming” the average internet user into becoming enraged at the slightest deviation from status quo and that’s what we’re seeing here. Rage means clicks means revenue for companies. Open internet doesn’t need revenue and doesn’t encourage rage.
People are used to absolute convenience but don't realize it always comes with consessions
To me it feels like the tantrum you see when someone who behaves badly is called out for it. They all almost immediately try to flip it around like they're the victims. Pretty much just thinking of it as a toddler throwing a tantrum and it'll make a lot more sense.
I think there's something to that idea. To my mind, what's driving that is a kind of internet culture shock. A lot of spaces on the internet do not encourage thoughtful posts and responses, and the culture of communication tends towards negative emotional affect and hostility. A lot of people seem to be entirely unaware of how hostile, reactive and negative they're being, based on my admittedly anecdotal observations of new users joining spaces where the communication culture is radically different. They think it's normal, because the spaces they frequent are also hostile, reactive and negative, and when their negativity is pointed out to them, it sparks defensiveness because they've not been aware of it until now, or consider it 'normal'. The de-federation seems to have been interpreted by some as a rejection of their behaviour and has sparked that defensiveness as a result.
I'm sure it's not news to you, but anytime you see someone trying to squash discussion or the like with terms like "snowflake", they're just projecting and letting you know that they're fragile.
That's 100% what it is. They just want to subject you to their inane opinions and bully and troll people. The admins made the right call I think.
Honestly it's my..... 2nd or 3rd? Day on Beehaw and I'd rather have a community where you need to pass a vibe check instead of a free for all like Reddit and Twitter.
Yup. There are a whole host of awful groups I do not want to interact with even tangentially through a second or tertiary community. I much prefer this setup.
Ditto
I personally don't want reddit #2.
Beehaw is all the rave and currently single handedly destroying [insert newest thing here] everywhere all at once, apparently.
It's weird to me people are upset they can't come crap it up with their vitriol when there are endless other places to do that. I realize it's definitely not everyone doing that, but still...
"Lemme in so I can be needlessly hostile while enjoying your nice community but also ignoring everything it stands for / is about."
No, go away. 🤨
I'm not on beehaw, but I'm also not on an instance defederated from beehaw
I read the list of instances blocked by beehaw, and I've gotta say you're not missing anything
Except Lemmy.world and sh.itjust.works
Which is temporary, and due to the overload caused by Reddit’s drama. Nobody is mad at anyone else, the admins of all three instances are working together to get stuff running again.
Crack open a beer, lean back in your favorite comfy chair, and be patient y’all. And if the FOMO is tearing your soul to fragments, mosey over to Reddit for a while. It’s still there.
One instance out of 750+ got overloaded and had to block some of the flood for a bit. Welcome to the Fediverse!
Beehaw recently defed with lemmy.world, it's the second largest lemmy.
Imma be honest, Beehaw feels empty in comparison to the other instances and they've made some weird decisions (no downvotes?). Why am I even here when browsing world in my browser not even logged in seemed to be an infinitely better experience... I don't get this place
Beehaw is for the people who want a safe, friendly place, no one's twisting your arm to be here. People here still have different views and people still argue. It just isn't vitriolic.
It doesn't feel empty to me, personally (just thought I'd be clear that this is only my opinion) but it is definitely somewhat slower than Reddit or some of the other Lemmy and Kbin instances that are out there. IMO, I think a lot of people coming to Beehaw who're acculturated to Big Social or Big Social-ish experiences are inevitably disappointed with the amount of content because it's not a massive stream of content being funneled into your feed anymore.
But I've been on the Fediverse (Mastodon, Lemmy, etc.) for about four years now and gotten used to the slower flow, that going to Reddit or some other Lemmy instances or Twitter now feels like I'm drowning or being inundated/overwhelmed with content which flows faster than I can give a due-diligence response to. Either I could say nothing, just vote, write a one-off low-effort response, get in a heated debate, or try to take the time to write something more thoughtful (and then by the time I was done with that, the moment would already have past or I'd get some smart-ass reply that would end the engagement for me). Plus there are some concessions involved in getting all that content delivered to you.
Some people like that but it's just not really for me anymore, it doesn't feel healthy. I like being able to slow down and actually talk to people, and I like that I can trust I'll see them again later. I like that I can post something and no matter whether it's popular or not, someone will engage, even if it takes time.
On the other part, I don't really understand how no downvotes is a "weird" decision; it's definitely not uncommon considering some of the subreddits I participated in on Reddit did the same thing. But in any event, Beehaw does have some posts/comments around explaining the reason for certain choices.
I guess it's not that dead. Biggest issue is I had is my feed set to Local instead of All by default, after switching that things look more like how I'd expect, not unlike my mastodon account. I I've set up an account elsewhere regardless, no idea how much I'll switch back to this one since none of the content I want to see has actually originated from beehaw anyways...
And that's okay, we can all enjoy the Fediverse on our preferred instances and platforms. Whether that be lemmy.world, lemmy.ca, beehaw, etc. or another platform like Kbin or Mastodon. That's the beauty of this federated design.
I guess you haven't seen what ANY community in Lemmy looked like before May 28th. Relative to today it was a barren wasteland in terms of content numbers, whereas in terms of community feel it was tight-knit and cozy. The busiest communities had like 5 or 6 posts a day, most with 0 to a handful of comments each. Whole instances like Beehaw and lemmy.ml might each have had around 20 posts or so a day on a good day.
Beehaw's top priority has been to keep that cozy feeling of friendliness and community even as we have grown more than 10x in size. It's not easy, and being a copy of Reddit or seeking mainstream levels of growth isn't part of Beehaw's current vision, as far as I've read into the admins' treatises on Beehaw ethos.
The Beehaw admins have just been doing exactly what they said they would in their signup page and community guidelines, yet a large number of people seem to have gotten surprised that they kept their word.
Yeah this is 100% why I signed up for beehaw. This is the sort of administration I was hoping for, not some betrayal.
Likewise! Keep the place nice, and nice people are going to want to stick around.
Assuming the surprised people even read the guidelines.
We've had users from other instances complain about it, not even recognizing that they are doing so on our thread, to our users, on our instance. Every single one of these users is not following our rules - they're extremely emotionally charged and telling us that we're terrible people (bad faith, not nice).
I understand that the fediverse can be difficult to understand and that the user interface is not the most user friendly, but also why are they so upset about what's happening somewhere else that they have no control over? The strength of the emotions they are feeling over such an abstract idea (an instance they are not on defederating from another instance that they are also not on) that doesn't even effect them, is just bizarre to me.
I can’t speak for everyone on BeeHaw but the reason they do stuff like this is a feature rather than a bug for me, it’s not everyone’s cup of tea but the good thing about the fediverse is that the only parade we can really piss on is our own and there’s a diversity of instances to choose from which is a good thing. One ‘master instance’ would defeat the point of federation pretty catastrophically.
I think past 10 years social media has been “grooming” the average internet user into becoming enraged at the slightest deviation from status quo and that’s what we’re seeing here. Rage means clicks means revenue for companies. People now become oddly obsessed with the silliest of things - well MY instance is superior, well MY video game is superior, well MY phone is superior. You get the idea. We all need to take a deep breath and chill the fuck out.
I'm liking beehaw as is
sweats in kbin
I don't think you have anything to worry about; Kbin hasn't really been a huge vector (afaik) for spam/harassment. It's just those two instances in particular which were ballooning and creating a moderation challenge but all the admins are in conversation about pressing for better tools and refederating come that day
makes sense. kbin actually got quite a lot of users, 30k over these past few days. I think it's half the amount lemmy got? though kbin users might be a bit more reserved and polite haha. we were also offline the first few days which I think also helped. trolls like lemmy better I guess.
@Otome-chan@kbin.social yeah I've noticed that too, the trolls don't seem to be on kbin - kbin feels fresher and nicer in a way. Ernest has been doing a great job with this site