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June is Pride Month! Do you feel you're on this scale? Or more of a mix of different ones?

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[–] growsomethinggood@reddthat.com 17 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I think this ought to include two dimensions (at least), one spectrum of gender and another of presentation. So woman to man on one, and feminine to masculine on another. The middle on the existing chart gets complicated because it wants to order butch women on the femme=woman side and feminine men on the masc=man side and they don't quite line up. If I could draw, I'd make a chart like:

Barbie Tig Notaro
Dan Levy GI Joe

(celebs just examples that came to mind, not necessarily the epitome of this structure lol)

[–] LadyButterfly@lemmy.world 9 points 3 weeks ago

I agree, it's definitely oversimplified. I bet all of us are X number in one trait, but Y in another. Gender is so diverse it can't be simple.

[–] Sombyr@lemmy.zip 12 points 3 weeks ago

Probably between a 4 and a 5. I have a running half-joke with some of my friends that I'm the only femboy who is actually a woman. Half joke because it's rediculous but also it's kind of how I actually feel.

[–] LadyButterfly@lemmy.world 11 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I'm a 2. I wouldn't say I'm pure sugary pink fashion loving girly, but pink is my favourite colour and I love animal prints and bows.

@dandelion@piefed.blahaj.zone I'm a 9 when it comes to banning people but you're a full on GI Joe 10 haha

[–] dandelion@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

haha, I think in terms of gender identity I am similar, I'm probably a 2, sometimes I can vibe with anything from 2 - 4, but compared to other women in my life I tend to be more femme.

This chart could use a second dimension for saturation / intensity.

And yeah, I'm definitely rigid in my rule-applying 😆 Will commit moderation hate crimes apparently 😝

[–] LadyButterfly@lemmy.world 5 points 3 weeks ago

Haha and that's what makes you so great

[–] hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

According to the diagrams, holding your arms outward is feminine, but holding them inwards at your side in order to take up less space is masculine. Sounds backwards

[–] xav@programming.dev 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

You mean outward is backwards and inward is (straight)forward ? Or is it the other way around ?

[–] garbagebagel@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I'm not a huge fan of this diagram because it also seems to imply that having a belly is somehow more masculine? Barbie girls can have big bellies too... Thinness isn't and shouldn't be a factor in feminity.

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 weeks ago

In terms of presentation, move around between 4, 5 and 6

[–] Caitlyynn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 weeks ago

Nice try, come back with a warrant next time

I think it has always been between 4-8, exactly where changes over time.

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm vibing with the shoulder pain of #7.

[–] LadyButterfly@lemmy.world 2 points 3 weeks ago

Haha I noticed that

[–] Rose_Thorne@lemmy.zip 4 points 3 weeks ago

Honestly, kinda flit everywhere between 2 and 6, depending on the day. I feel like I'm probably a 4 on a normal day, but I can't ignore the times of "My gender is something beyond your, and my, comprehension."

[–] sweetgemberry@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Honestly I'd rock an m1a1 in a dress I could have a Kevlar underskirt to match. Let me ride to war atop my Abrams chariot dressed like a queen.

Edit: only after posting did I realise we might be talking about the toys and not dress up.

[–] umbraroze@slrpnk.net 3 points 3 weeks ago

I'm a trans woman. Weirdly enough I've never had much respect for pointlessly gendered toys. If people point blank asked me "Barbie or G.I. Joe?" I'd hesitantly answer "...um, TMNT???"

That said, I can't explain how I got a strange productivity boost recently when I started ordering stickers and putting them everywhere. I do need some cutesiness it seems. As long as I don't make everything pink.

My gender is multiple different scales that each fluctuate and half of them cant be described with words :3

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 2 points 3 weeks ago

Depending on my mood anywhere from 3 to 7.

[–] zarniwoop@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 3 weeks ago

5-6 probably.

[–] sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago
[–] frenchfryenjoyer@lemmings.world 1 points 3 weeks ago
[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Idk femmed*ke when I want to put in effort, blob with boobs when I dont?