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[–] N0t_5ure@lemmy.world 33 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Telling you that you're too sensitive is a classic move by manipulative people, including parents, leading people to believe that they're overly sensitive. If your gut is telling you that something is wrong, it likely is.

[–] jjmoldy@lemmy.world 27 points 6 days ago (2 children)

Okay but as a person who is really sensitive, sometimes it really is a matter of how you're reacting and not what the other person is doing.

[–] N0t_5ure@lemmy.world 7 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

Being sensitive and being led to believe that you're too sensitive are not mutually exclusive. I grew up an abusive environment, and being able to quickly tune in on the moods of the adults around me saved me from plenty of beatings. Unfortunately, I also experienced a lot of emotional invalidation, including repeatedly being told I was "too sensitive". This not only gives the abusers a free pass, it grooms you for abuse by others, as you tend to doubt your own feelings. It wasn't until I learned about facial microexpressions that I was able to recognize the basis for my intuitive "gut" feelings - I have an almost superhuman ability to read people, undoubtedly because I learned this as a child as a way to protect myself from my parents. So yes, I am "sensitive," but I've learned to trust my instincts, which are almost always 100% right at picking up on an off "vibe".

[–] FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

There is a thing where people take some things too personally. Like im usually quite cheery but i have health problems and when they flare i get a little grumpy and blunt. Not to the point im an asshole but you can tell my energy is different.

One person always thought i was mad at them 😭. Most people just know me and know its completely normal.

Basically when I stop masking ppl might see my energy shift.

[–] leisesprecher@feddit.org 7 points 6 days ago

Telling others that you're too sensitive is likewise used to deflect any criticism.

[–] TrickDacy@lemmy.world 14 points 6 days ago

With punctuation, preferably.

[–] ivanafterall@lemmy.world 9 points 6 days ago (1 children)

You're not supposed to tell them. You simply never talk to that person again.

Yep. Avoid! Avoid!

[–] karashta@piefed.social 3 points 6 days ago

The struggle is real.

I know this all too well.