Why do you think her appearance is meant to attract sex partners or to fool ppl about her age?
this post was submitted on 12 Jul 2025
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That's what I was gonna ask too.
Who the fuck cares how others are dressing?
This obvious young person, apparently.
- Judgmental? Check.
- Arrogant? Check.
- Shamelessly certain they know the best ways for others to think, feel, live, act? Check.
- Thinks 52 is ‘old?’ Check.
- Has no idea what a dick they present as? Double check.
Wait, they could also be a republican.
What even is “dressing your age?” There are styles of dressing that are objectively correct for each age group? Where do I look these up, along with what the age delineations are for each group?
You sound young, so this response is based on that judgement (pardon me)
Answer to your question - No you won’t. You decide how you want to live your life. You can look however you want as you age up.
Another thing to be mindful of - Life is shorter than it seems. Prejudices are needless burdens that creep into our minds — the sooner we let them go, the more fully we can live.
An adult dressing like an adult feels completely appropriate to me.
Even if someone was dressing younger to get attention I don't really see a problem with it, but maybe I'm biased because I think everyone should be able to be slutty or promiscuous as long as they're being ethical about it.
One way to look at it is different standards - my mother-in-law, also somewhat old, wouldn’t be caught dead without makeup and hair, regardless of the reason. You assume she’s dressing for others. She’s dressing for both herself and how society use to be.
who am I to judge that woman if it makes her happy to dress like that?
literally no one. here's a tip: if you feel the need to judge what a woman is wearing, put out your eyes instead. then it's no longer your concern.
Putting in the effort to dress in the way one has come to think is appropriate for appearing in public is a form of self-care. For some people, from certain generations or cultures or who have adopted the habit to their identity, that may be more formal or elaborate than for others.
That a person of an advanced age, possibly suffering some mental decline still does this is a great thing, and very good for their well-being.
Why do you think someone 80 should dress any differenty? 80 is not even that old. My mom is like 95 and dresses the same pretty much she did decades ago.
As far as makeup and nails, that often looks foolish at any age.
I've seen some straight GILFs at my job, and they dress "young" for their age.