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Disabled people shouldn't be grateful for accommodations anymore than we all should feel grateful for stairs (reddthat.com)
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[–] SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Society really does make it hell to ask for those accomodations, and subconsciously makes you feel ashamed for it. It's exhausting

How many times do I need to repeat something before people get it, and actually believe my words?

The longer I go on the more I understand just how unkind society tends to be towards disabled people

[–] LadyButterfly@reddthat.com 2 points 2 days ago

Yep and employers seem to think accommodations only have to be given when they feel like it. We just get brushed under the carpet in day to day life

[–] Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.world 17 points 2 days ago (4 children)

It's not a disability, but I'm short. I've never felt embarrassed to ask someone tall walking by if they can grab something off the top shelf at a grocery store (for example).

It should absolutely be the same way with any accomodations needed for any disability.

[–] Tower@lemmy.zip 7 points 2 days ago

Keep doing it! Most of us tall people enjoy the opportunity to be helpful 😁

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 5 points 2 days ago

As a tall person, seriously, its no problem when people ask.

Though for some reason apparently it's a massive inconvenience ro speak louder according to hearing people

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 days ago

Tall and strong here, some of my friends have felt awkward about asking for help, but I've always loved being able to lend a hand!

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

They oughta have the grabber things in every aisle of the store but they don't because children fucking steal them to play with!

[–] usernamefactory@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Stores should just hire enough employees that it doesn’t take twenty minutes of wandering aimlessly to find help.

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

Sure but they also hire short people. So having the grabbers around helps. My identical twin, all 4'11" works in grocery. So you can find them...and still need the grabbers! Or hope they can find yet another employee that's taller.

[–] kadup@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago (1 children)

You've been posting a lot lately.

Your content is always great, keep it up!

[–] LadyButterfly@reddthat.com 10 points 2 days ago

Thanks kadu! It's a lot of work so comments like this mean a lot to me

[–] mauuumauukittycat@piefed.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

your posts are amazing, cutieeee