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[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 23 points 11 months ago

I stare out the window, to avoid eye contact with people. I silently fume against designers who’ve obviously never experienced social anxiety, and hence don’t understand the significance of seats which face earth other.

I sit and stare out the window. And if I’m in a bus with that advertising mesh over the windows, I gaze placidly at the blurry mash of colors, wondering what the world outside that window looks like at normal resolution.

I hate the window advertisements. I hate them. I hate that the people being advertised at aren’t bus riders. I hate that my window is secondary to their new exhibit at the MOMA or whatever rich people horseshit gets advertised on the sides of buses.

Out in the world is the only place I can put my eyes that isn’t offensive somehow. And they cover it up, pretending like those little pinholes make it okay.

[-] ______@lemm.ee 5 points 11 months ago

I'm pretty sure no one likes the seats that face each other. It's just a design that allows the bus to have more seats than otherwise possible.

Busses are so packed where I live, my real issue is the city not providing more busses and not the seats facing each other

[-] ellabee@sh.itjust.works 3 points 11 months ago

I prefer the seats facing each other, but only because sitting sideways to the direction of motion somehow makes me less car sick.

Definitely still headphones in, eyes down. Pretend I'm focused on my phone or knitting, even if all I can think about is nausea, because i definitely don't want another awkward bus conversation. Make sure the knitting is contained on my lap and doesn't spill into anyone else's seat.

the busses were less crowded post covid here, and the solution seems to be fewer busses so it's more "efficient". which is awkward when using it to commute and my options go from "10 minutes early, on time, 10 minutes late" to "30 minutes early or 20 minutes late".

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 11 months ago

It’s funny you say that about sitting sideways because I prefer to sit forward for the motion control. Somehow the side to side stabilization is more uncomfortable for me than the forward and back as the bus starts and stops.

[-] maxprime@lemmy.ml 20 points 11 months ago
[-] mcmxci@mimiclem.me 10 points 11 months ago

Fastest reference I ever saw

[-] kuneho@lemmy.world 17 points 11 months ago

Yeah, I have the weirdest habit; I take off my backpack from my back and hold it in my hand.

[-] SilverFlame@lemmy.world 20 points 11 months ago

Have you considered bumping your bag into everyone else instead?

[-] mhz@lemm.ee 3 points 11 months ago

Not a weird habit, I do it in the hot season cause my back get sweaty.

[-] scytale@lemm.ee 11 points 11 months ago

Not really odd in general, but might be for first worlders because I apply the same principles even in developed countries:

  • Bag in front to avoid pickpockets.
  • Sit/stand close to a door for quick exits in case of emergencies, but not too close to avoid thieves grabbing your stuff before the doors close.
  • Try to so sit behind the bus driver. They’ll protect themselves first by instinct in a crash so you have a higher chance of survival.
  • Decoy phone in case of a robbery, although I don’t do this often anymore.
[-] ALERT@sh.itjust.works 5 points 11 months ago

pickpocketing, robbery... are you from Papua New Guinea or something?

[-] slazer2au@lemmy.world 3 points 11 months ago

Na, more likely a tourist heavy area. People pay less attention to themselves in an unfamiliar place, too busy looking at the sceanary.

[-] Sea_pop@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

Lol when I was in PNG I don't think I saw one bus but that was in '05.

[-] otter@lemmy.ca 9 points 11 months ago

I take it so often that I can't think of anything.

There is usually a door I enter by and a seat that I go for. We also thank the bus driver when we get off from the front doors, but that's something everyone does.

What do you do?

[-] FrankTheHealer@lemmy.world 8 points 11 months ago

I put my bag down on the ground to avoid taking up any extra space.

I wear headphones so others dont hear my videos/ music/ podcasts/ calls

I mind my business and don't stare at others.

I dont do anything that might gross out other people like picking my nose, picking my ass, scratching my balls or touching other people inappropriately.

Apparently this is a routine specific to me since the majority of people on public transport dont do these things.

[-] bender@insaneutopia.com 8 points 11 months ago

I sacrifice a chicken.

[-] notexecutive@sh.itjust.works 8 points 11 months ago

When I go on a plane, I always touch the outside of the plane at least once before boarding, and I always look at the instruction booklet on escaping the plane in an emergency. I like the funny pictures in it, there's a baby I keep seeing that looks like Bobby Hill but really bored.

[-] subspaceinterferents@lemmy.world 8 points 11 months ago

OMG, a fellow plane-toucher. Not big on compulsive behavior, but gotta tap the skin with the fingernail or it's going down for sure...

[-] Pandoras_Can_Opener@mander.xyz 8 points 11 months ago

I'm autistic, depending on how intense sensory issues are that day: sunglasses, noise canceling headphones, stim toys and if it's really bad a teddy bear.

I'm also the one idiot who still wears a mask. In full gear I'm quite the sight.

[-] FrankTheHealer@lemmy.world 4 points 11 months ago

Thanks for being mindful of others with your mask.

How do you avoid your sunglasses from fogging up when you wear them with a mask?

[-] Pandoras_Can_Opener@mander.xyz 2 points 11 months ago

Thanks!

Its a pair of really big glasses that I can slide down my nose a little and still have the glasses cover my field of vision.

[-] walter_wiggles@lemmy.nz 7 points 11 months ago

Don't rub your eyes!

[-] A_A@lemmy.world 6 points 11 months ago

No, and you ?

[-] lvxferre@lemmy.ml 4 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

As soon as I sit on the bus for an inter-city travel, I'll put a small pillow behind my head and plug the earphones on my ears (regardless of actually listening to music or not). And if the travel will last more than 4h I will have a plastic bottle of passion fruit juice dissolved in chamomile tea with some vodka.

I call this trio (pillow, earbuds, bottle) "small talk deterrent".

[-] mhz@lemm.ee 4 points 11 months ago

I pick my phone and start reading something, mostly an article from pocket (app) or a book from my Moon reader library.

[-] recursive_recursion@programming.dev 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

because I trainsurf it means I always have a spot in 'no man's land'(where there's no handrails or anything) plus it frees up a seat/leaning spot(- not sure if there's a word for this) for someone else

it was a weird/fun thing and now it's just useful (great for practicing snowboarding)

[-] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 1 points 11 months ago

I try to sit as far away from other people as possible.

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