If they said that verbatim that is super unprofessional and highly inappropriate conduct for a workplace. Best way is to pull them aside and tell them in private that you don’t appreciate such remarks. Otherwise, in a functional workplace report it to a manager/HR. That second quote alone would be grounds for a review if not more. What a fucking psycho thing to say to a work colleague. It reeks of workplace bullying.
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Otherwise, in a functional workplace report it to a manager/HR.
100% this. The 'functional' part being key, alas. Because HR can very easily not be functional and make one feels even worse when seeing it doesn't change shit to report those bullies.
I'll be the unwise advice commenter. Someone has to.
Wait until they say something intelligent. Wow, what an astute observation! You never talk about ideas. You usually just talk shit!
Did you say any of this to them?
Not OP, but as someone also struggling with depression, no I wouldn't think that being treated like this would make me want to confront these people at all as much as the OP describes, just never show my face around them again. Depression makes you want to give up, not be fucking assertive. Criminy.
No, I've also struggled with depression, I completely understand why you wouldn't say anything. I was only wondering if they did, not trying to judge them. My sincere apologies if that tone came off.
These people are adults? Jfc.
The vast majority of US "adults" never matured past middle school. This is par for the fucking course over here.
God thats sad, I'm sorry
Gods, I hate that... if you don't walk around grinning like an idiot at all times people think YOU'RE the weird one. I ended up practicing my smile, then flashing it during work interviews and when I first go in to work in the morning. After that if they say something I'll just pretend like I'm deep in thought.