Asklemmy

I distract myself with video games usually. Takes the mind off of the day to day things.

But if I don't have the energy, sometimes curling up on the couch with a blanket and a drink and watching Youtube or movies or something is nice.

I don't need to cope. I like my job. My country has always been shit. My life isn't stagnant.

I'm a traditional sort of guy: weed and alcohol.

Drugs. Lots of drugs.

I try to create - drawing, making music, sewing, repairing appliances, learning how to do new things. Single-player games (video or board) are a nice way to unwind and distract your mind while still keeping it challenged. I am lucky enough to have a couple chill days who like to snuggle, and that snuggling helps way more than I ever thought.

it's my teammate

Cope?

The state of socialism around the world hasn't had a better year than this one and it's only going to get better, unless AI will make communism possible and popular.

Bike riding, video games, wildlife photography, tech tinkering, cooking, baking, reading. Basically keep myself busy with stuff that is broadly non-self destructive.

Lift weights! Genuinely super fun to track the progress over time. Bonus effect: lazing around in bed the rest of the weekend is no longer wasting your life; you’re now resting and building muscle!

if i dont get halfway decent exercise i don't sleep well, if i don't sleep well i get depressed, stability for me starts with physical activity. that and blowing fat clouds of gas

Cry

Walk, lift and do stuff for your health. It's better than eating, because once you are fit enough you can really eat what you want in quantities that you want. You learn along the way that it feels nice to be healthy too so unhealthy cravings go away.
Spend more time with family and close friends, even if its text or voice chat on discord. Having closer relations with people is beneficial for mental health. Relations where two people want help each other flourish and grow are the best. If you like games i would suggest speedrunning - joining and posting your runs, if you like boardgames - chess or go(baduk) clubs and tournaments, if you like crafts - some workshops - like pottery or woodworking. Finding people who you can interact with in "getting better" mindset eorks wonders, and makes person more motivated.
Learn stuff that you can make on your own - food/cooking, sewing, small maintenance stuff. Overall, "working with your hands", is great. Not only you learn something useful, but also it gives space to be brainless for a while when peeling onions or whatnot where i feel at rest. If you are in position to get a pet from shelter and be it's companion - do it. If you can't - shelters usually accept volunteering. Pets teach compassion and provide comfort. Taking care of other being and learning its behaviour is fun on its own but also beneficial to reevaluate your own behaviours. Inevitably living with other living being changes a person, i think for the better. I definitely changed since i got my best friend from the shelter. Weed if you would be into it. In your case probably more of sativa to get energy and be talkative, more around the house, do small things to rythm of good music for few hours. You can lock in on task for long time.

YMMV I am neurodivergent just ideas to evaluate. Wishing you all the best <3

Alcohol and drug use aside, I have changed a few things about myself and my routine that have helped me tremendously. Maybe they can help you, or someone else:

1. Cook for yourself. Find some simple recipes for wholesome meals (i.e. wholesome in the sense that it meets your nutritional requirements, and that you make it yourself most from scratch).
   • I tend to focus on lean meats, high protein, and green veggies.
2. Set aside one or two hours in your day for just yourself. Play video games, read a book, watch a movie, or take a walk. The idea is to scratch a personal itch you would otherwise deny yourself because of responsibilities or “lack of time”.
3. Naps. If you can, try to take a nap each day. Try to stay with 20-30 minutes, but recognize like any habit/hobby, it takes time to get it right.
   • I’ve gotten to the point where I’ll set a 30 minute timer and only actually nap for 20 minutes.
4. Meditation. I usually do this when I nap or go to sleep for the night. I have a pair of Bluetooth headphones that are in a headband (for sleeping), and I’ll cue up an hour long ASMR or guided sleep video. The guided sleep ones are real good because they teach you box breathing, and help keep your mind focused on yourself so it doesn’t wander into the things that keep you awake.
5. Develop a regular cleaning schedule. Not only will it keep your house clean and tidy, but it allows you to focus your energy into something productive and positive.
   • I use my Notes app to create my to-do lists, and check things off as they get done.
   • If I do something not on my list, I add it and immediately check it off; having a really long list checked off feels real good.
   • I don’t care if I get my list done in a day or week. It’ll get done.

I make art. For myself, for others, whatevers. Anything to keep my hands busy and away from doomscrolling.

Also, video games.

I take deliberate breaks from stuff like Lemmy and the news. I only came back here after a multi-month break this month. It works.

I find depression helps. Seriously I hope I will be going to work at some point. I dunno. Fantasize.

Well I smoke weed yeah but it's not my only way to cope. I go on walks when the weather is nice and sometimes I bury myself in my studies. Reading as well can be a form of escapism but I find that reading about why the world is the way it is also helps. Talking about it with people who's judgement I respect and who respect my own is likewise fulfilling. I'm lucky to have these people, I might have gone insane by now if the only people who understand my POV were online. I have some experience with IRL political organizing and this has helped to find a sense of purpose, actually helping others who need it even in small ways while the world falls apart goes a long way for my mental health. I wish I had more time for it but academia takes up so much of my energy.

Tune out of all news and politics, put internet filters in place to block key words, focus on things you can actually control a day at a time. Hobbies :)

I hope you make playlists for those things. Not a bad idea to chase the blues away.

Have you considered cooking or baking as a way to minimize harm when it comes to food? They can be exercises in mindfulness, ways you can show appreciation for others, or ways to bring people together.

I tend to dive into computer stuff like self hosting or tweaking my desktop. It feels good to get a project up and running, or at least have something to fix.

Being alive is enough of a reason to live

100proof Vodka.

I've also been listening to a bunch of songs I haven't listened to in a while, the past few weeks.

Got around 60+ short playlists on YouTube I used to listen to when gaming. Don't game as much these days, but been enjoying having a few shots and watching something, then listening to music while laying down as the night progresses.

One unexpected nice lil side effect, is that I've started waking up with a song stuck in my head that's from the previous evening's listening; a song I actually like instead of the mall-shite that I frequently wake up to. I often wake up with a song stuck in my head, but it's more often then not, not one I want stuck in there. (Used to work retail and used to work in retail stores doing contract inventory. Listened to a lot of mall music in my life.)

Also, I'm currently living in a hostel and for some reason they continually play crap music down in the lobby/bar/communal area. I've heard enough Spice Girls to last me a couple lifetimes, tyvm. So the above has helped counter that musical offensive on my sense of taste and sanity.

Heroin..