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submitted 1 month ago by Comrade_Squid@lemmy.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml

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I'm a member of a revolutionary party. known as a leading comrade in my region with positions in unions and in the party. However, I paid a visit to a comrade some months ago, I'm a little intense (ADHD) and an extroverted introvert. But the visit went well (so I thought), we had hot drinks and chatted for a few hours, they even had some weed (I don't smoke). I would say they are a good comrade but lacks theoretical understanding, class instinct is however outstanding. They will argue against union work, suggest boycotting and mostly wants to create localised small campaign around local issues. In principal I am for local issues, and we can have and have had great interventions in anti racist campaigns, but honestly, running campaigns as a small branch requires a lot and trends towards limited outcomes. This person seems to have blocked my messaging them privately, we are also planning on doing some recruitment in theyre town, it seems I am not invited. As I've been asked to do legwork instead of recruitment/party social (food and drinks after) Then there had been two promising recruits who I had met initially, a second meetup happened where two comrades went to meet them in my city (I have no problem with that) but when I asked about it, one of the comrades lied, and I know this because the other comrade told me about the fucking meeting.

I think I am currently being spoken about behind my back.

I can understand that I'm intense. I still find the secrecy to get under my skin.

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[–] Cowbee@lemmygrad.ml 17 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm sorry to hear that, comrade. Even well-meaning people can be cruel. It's entirely uncalled for to ostracize you and speak about you behind your back, regardless of intensity of character.

[–] Comrade_Squid@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

There's some complicated tension in my branch. I don't think they are being well meaning, it would be nice if this had been the case. seems more attributable to ego and a family feud/nepotism, the more frustrating thing is, because I had risen fairy fast with in the party, and and many of my comrades seem to sincerely like me, a lot of the abuse comes with a smile and admiration. One that sticks in my head was "some people are born with it, some people learn it, and you fell into it, you really fell into it, didn't you?" after I inpromptly turned up to a large trades council regional meeting where I spoke on a panel (all very last minute, some of my comrades knew I was attending but the person to say this had no clue) and this was said to me while we were debriefing in our socialist party group.

[–] Cowbee@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 1 month ago (1 children)

That's really vile, comrade, and reeks of a lack of party discipline among comrades. This kind of behavior is intensely destructive.

[–] Comrade_Squid@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Most of us are walking in lockstep, many of my comrades are family, in away, they have to be if we are to be revolutionaries. I believe its a regional issue and not a national one, at least I hope..

My region is historically with issues, I refer to us as the peasantry of the socialist party

[–] Cowbee@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 1 month ago

Understood, perhaps more national and even international outreach would help? I am unsure of how possible that is.

[–] Commiejones@lemmygrad.ml 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Fuck. That sounds really uncomfortable. Maybe have a bit of a chat with another party member about it? Not to try to get them on "your side" or anything but just to see if maybe there is something that you are missing.

Maybe you are too intense and they feel like recruitment isn't your gig? They should be able to just be honest with you but some people don't get that its better to hurt someones feelings than to hurt their trust especially in a party.

If it comes to confronting them try to lean into the "did I do something wrong" more than the "why are you guys lying to me and working behind my back" Try to not be accusatory and present it as you wanting to do self crit.

[–] Comrade_Squid@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm dipping out till the end of the month, if they aren't willing to discuss it then I won't be attending branch. I told our secretary that something feels off and that I will be back on 2nd of Feb, theyre reaction wasn't to investigate what I had said. so I think they know I know and have no spines for confrontation.

[–] readmotherfucker@lemmygrad.ml 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

https://www.marxists.org/reference/archive/mao/selected-works/volume-2/mswv2_03.htm

"Liberalism manifests itself in various ways.

To let things slide for the sake of peace and friendship when a person has clearly gone wrong, and refrain from principled argument because he is an old acquaintance, a fellow townsman, a schoolmate, a close friend, a loved one, an old colleague or old subordinate. Or to touch on the matter lightly instead of going into it thoroughly, so as to keep on good terms. The result is that both the organization and the individual are harmed. This is one type of liberalism.

To indulge in irresponsible criticism in private instead of actively putting forward one's suggestions to the organization. To say nothing to people to their faces but to gossip behind their backs, or to say nothing at a meeting but to gossip afterwards. To show no regard at all for the principles of collective life but to follow one's own inclination. This is a second type."

Godspeed comrade

[–] Comrade_Squid@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I've not read much of Mao, I will give this link a full read.

Thanks and thanks for the kind words,

Coming into politics I thought the cloak and daggers had been a characterisation but nope I've had a few of these incidents show up.