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[–] MystValkyrie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

-Transition, if not then and there, then at 18 when I've moved out. And see a therapist to manage depression and anxiety either way.

-Don't fall out of touch with the friend who would pass away in four years' time.

-Do everything I can to make sure my best friend doesn't make the choice that ruins the rest of his life.

-Choose a degree for a field that won't be replaced by AI and definitely don't consider grad school for that same field.

Welp, this was a sad thread.

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

+1 for social and medical transition, my priority would be securing estrogen first and foremost.

Also, pretty easy to make money in this situation - get a part time job and start putting all your money into Apple and Bitcoin 😅

I think I might also move to get emancipation from my parents, and I would take the full ride scholarships I know I'm very likely to get in a couple years and go to college.

I would breakup with my girlfriend, too. She was cheating on me behind my back, and ends up breaking up with me in a year or two to pursue an online relationship.

[–] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 12 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

transition. kiss that guy i was into, who was into me. (whatever is easier will be first.)

[–] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 weeks ago

this is cute 🥰

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm pretty sure kissing involves less psychoanalysis

[–] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

for me, there is no other way of finding out if someone is really into me, other than 3 years of psychoanalysis. ;)

...

though this thought experiment is rather dark. with my current mind in a 16 year-old body, i would not want to hang out with 18 year-olds.

this would mean either isolation or a lot of pretending. also: imagine getting a second chance and the pressure of doing it right this time!

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago

Ah, you're like that cartoon where the wife never believes the husband really likes her, all through their life together

Yeah, I haven't done my own reply because TBH I couldn't think of it seriously without it becoming rather bleak :-/

[–] EmilyIsTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)
  • Transition immediately
  • Tell my partner to transition immediately and not put it off
  • Don't date the ex that traumatized me
  • Seek therapy sooner

Not much else tbh.

[–] ada@piefed.blahaj.zone 8 points 2 weeks ago

It would mean my child was never born. That would fuck me up.

[–] Waldelfe@feddit.org 7 points 2 weeks ago

Get in contact with CPS and try everything to be taken out of that house.

[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 7 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Doctor, transition, NOW

Get assessed for au/dhd

End the toxic relationship

Doctor. Transition. NOW.

[–] IronBird@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago

i don't respect time travel

[–] sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago

Put all my McDonald's money into Microsoft stock.

[–] dkppunk@piefed.social 3 points 2 weeks ago

I would have stayed in field hockey. I love that game but was bullied out of my sophomore season by my coach because I “underperformed” during training season. I had a knee injury so I couldn’t get my run times up to her standards. The two whole times she put me into a game for 5 minutes each, I saved the other team from scoring, drove the ball hard to the front line, and our star offensive scored a goal. But I got a whole 10 minutes of play time that season. Fuck you coach.

It’s not a huge life changing thing, but I loved that game so much. It probably would not have changed my adolescent depression, but it would have made me happier and connected to my teammates and peers if I kept playing. I ended up disconnecting from a lot of friends and started working instead.

So now, I’m getting into PWHL because fuck yeah!