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There is no free will. None whatsoever.
this post was submitted on 14 Mar 2026
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hopefully pacifism.
Cashiers here have started saying "have a good rest of your day" instead of "have a good afternoon" or something.
It never used to be a phrase.
Its very common now.
I understand that language evolves and that this is probably used often enough to be dramatically "appropriate" now, but i just hate it.
Some how the grammar is just discordant and I find it jarring every time.
Of course, I dont tell cashiers about this grievance, because I appreciate them and I understand this is just me being weird and I try to get through my day offending the fewest service workers as possible.
If you compare it to "have a good day", it's longer and awkwarder, and the extra words are to avoid...the scenario of someone complaining that part of the day has already passed and can no longer be nice?
In the same vein of unnecessary specificity: I hate when waiters ask "how is everything tasting?" I have to resist replying that it tastes great but it's cold and the texture makes me want to gag.
Similarly, I find it slightly annoying when you thank a cashier and they respond by saying you're welcome. This exchange was purely transactional (I paid for my items and you did your job), so please don't imply that you did me some sort of personal favor. But like you, I won't say anything about it to the cashier because their job is already hard enough.
I don't get this one. You started it going with the thank you. now they have to say your welcome.
Private ownership of vehicles should be banned. Most people's cars are unused for 90% of the day, which is insanely inefficient. Have a pool of cars they anyone can hire just for the time they need them. It would be cheaper for everyone and there wouldn't be three fuck ugly cars in front of every house.
In my area, as in many others, we had a few e-scooter rental companies for a few months. They pretty much just weren't viable because people didnt care for the stuff. Basically if its rented, people will only care in so far as they can be held responsible.
Additionally, public transport doesn't really work here because we dont have the population density.
That principle is important.
In any system where goods ( of some kind ) are not owned by the people using them, then you have to make those goods near-impossible-to-break, which is part of where communist Brutalism aesthetic comes from.
There was a book by a shelled-moluscs scientist who was born blind: he sees through his fingertips.
He's the one who pointed that principle out, having lived in communism for part of his life, & once the principle's understood, it can't be unseen.
Know somebody who cares for their tools like jewelry?
They'd all be destroyed, pronto, in communism.
That's the price that gets paid when nobody owns what they're using.
And THAT principle, means that it then becomes possible to design means-sharing-systems that can work.
The e-scooter rental systems that many cities now have, is 1 example: idiotproof, indestructible, & they enable significant improvement in the city.
But consider contractors who need to be able to get anywhere, with their tools..
public transport may break their work.
Rurally, not having a vehicle's .. often suicide.
& if the city's designed like US cities, towns, & villages, where they engineer it to break any other form of transport, then you cannot get to the supermarket without a car, from many locations.
It takes much more whole-systems orientation, to get it right, than what the US has been doing..
< shruggeth >
just some perspectives, is all..
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Getting married without a prenup in today’s world is foolish. Ask marriage counselors and they will in general tell you to get a prenup. A prenup is wrote by two people and both have their own attorney. Anyone who refuses to get one or even discuss one is someone you should run from. A prenup details how a divorce AND how a marriage should run.
Also anyone who wants operating system or device level age verification doesn’t understand how bad things will get if we do that. It’s only about mass surveillance and selling of your data. It does nothing to protect kids.
(US context) The advice I got was that every marriage has a prenup. If the couple doesn't write it, it's just the default prenup their state wrote and it's going to be crap for both people.
That’s exactly correct
I remember a science fiction story where the marriage license has a seven year term and has to be renewed periodically.
That’s an interesting concept
"The Puppet Masters" by Robert A. Heinlein. There's an acceptable movie version of the book. The marriage scene isn't in the movie, though.
Water usage but in the opposite direction. Yes, I'm going to take a bath. No, I don't think it makes any actual difference ; go blow up a factory or a data centre if you care so much about water. (Or maybe do it even if you don't, it never hurts !)
In relation to your hill: While you're entirely correct, that's absurdly small potatoes compared to industrial water use. Yes, we should be conscious of our water use and limit unnecessary overuse, but a higher priority ought to be regulating industrial use. Data centers are the obvious example of using way too much for bullshit that ain't worth the water or power. Speaking of power, we could reduce water use by power plants. Nearly all generate power by boiling water. I'm a power plant operator at a plant that happens to use reclaim water as our source water, and we purify on-site for the main process, and we have a brine concentrator and crystallizer on-site to recycle the cooling tower blowdown and remove the solids to a dumpster that goes to a landfill. Unfortunately we burn methane, so I can't say that we're green, but we at least discharge zero water into local waterways (except storm drains when it rains).
My hill: Vote with your wallet. If you really believe in something, stop giving money to companies fighting against it. I won't buy chikfila because the owners actively spend money on gay conversion camps and lobby to reverse the legality of same sex marriage. It's impossible to research every little thing before every purchase, and sometimes there's no reasonable alternative, but something like chikfila is easy to avoid. There is no ethical consumption under capitalism, but don't let perfect be the enemy of good. Little changes can add up, and doing anything even a little bit better is an improvement over not trying.
Bonus hill: Put your fucking grocery cart into the cart corral. It takes ten seconds and prevents cars from getting hit. It's kind of the simplest measure for societal decency. I don't believe in the death penalty, but what value are you contributing to society if you're too selfish to return your fucking cart?
www.Goodsuniteus.com is a start to seeing where your money goes. Still looking for a better alternative.
The good news is as the giant evil corporations buy up everything it gets easier to just stop buying shit in general.
“that’s just how I’ve always done it” is the worst when it's used as an excuse to avoid putting effort into personal growth
Nobody in your life agrees with you? You gotta get out of that toxic environment.
my hill: when i post an asklemmy, i place my answer as a comment, so the thread doesn't become a bunch of replies to my personal answer, so each reply to the post relates directly to the original question
I’m not going to eat a fucking hot dog, I don’t care how much everyone else pretends to enjoy them, they’re a crime against food and decency.
I tell ya you're not missing much.
even the best hot dog is, well,l still just a hotdog.
I’ve had hot dogs, I know what I’m missing and I do not miss it.
Eating a hot dog on a Friday violates all major religions' rules on food.
Islam: No pork
Hinduism: No beef
Buddhism: No meat
Catholicism: No meat on Fridays
Discordianism: No hot dogs
Plenty of Buddhists eat meat. Often
And plenty of Catholics eat meat on Fridays.
I think they did away with that rule lol. Plenty of Hindus love cheeseburgers.
Are you not dismissing every other type of sausage, or did just not consider them? Because if this is about lips & assholes, almost all of them are all lips & assholes.
It’s not so much lips and assholes, I know far too much about processed foods to be bothered by that, it’s the taste of a hot dog. They don’t taste like meat, they don’t taste like food, they taste specifically and mercilessly of hot dog. I’m not opposed to a good sausage, but most sausages aren’t good because for some reason almost all of them have to have fucking fennel seeds in them.
I hate doing dishes like that anyway. I just scrub them one at a time under running water after letting them soak in whatever water can fill in. I don’t really think of the sink as a sanitary item regardless of how much you clean it. The drain is always going to be gross.
[off topic]
Have you tried replacing the grass with local flora?
Also, what your family uses is a drop in the bucket compared to what your local industry wastes.
There are probably a dozen or more open air, private swimming pools that sit filled, full of chemicals, and unused 350 days a year, within walking distance of your place.
I’m very anti-lawn and would love replacing it with native wild flowers. We unfortunately don’t own the house, a friend does. I may throw down some clover seed, which uses less water as a small defiant act.
And, yes, our city has the pools, at least a dozen 18 hole golf courses and three day a week watering. Absurd since we’re on the verge of drought every year. Hopefully the powers that be known what they’re doing
I checked out the gym near me, lifetime, who charge $330 a month. They have a heated Olympic size swimming pool outdoors year-round, in a climate that gets a fair amount of snow in the winter. So that’s what rich people do with our resources.
As far as water, yeah. Even in very arid places, it’s permitted to do agriculture to grow things like hay and use 80% of the local water supply. Even better, there’s a trend in the US where people from places like Saudi Arabia grow the hay, use our water, and then export it.
The people at that gym aren't 'rich.'
The rich folks are the ones with their own Olympic sized pools.
It’s just a matter of degree. Sure, we could take someone who has a net worth of $30 million and say well, that’s nothing, some people have 30 billion. People who are paying over $300 a month for a gym membership have a lot more money than people who are trying to afford $25 a month.
Maybe more of an online/fandom type of nobody rather than IRL, but I LOVE Sonic The Hedgehog ( Sonic '06 ) so much despite all the glitches because I think the glitches add so much to the game. Cannot convince me that bug riddled mess isn't a very beautiful sight to behold.
"Deserving", "credit", "blame", "justice", and related concepts are all collective hallucinations. We're all observers riding around powerless in robotic meat chassis and the part of us that experiences every bad and good thing we'll ever experience is completely disconnected from the part of us that makes any decisions. There's no "justice" in making sure someone who committed some atrocity experiences negative consequences. The "justice" system should be focused solely on rehabilitation and protecting people -- innocent or otherwise. Governments trying to be in the business of "punishing" people is misguided at best.
In pretty much the opposite direction, my hill is that "right","wrong", "blameworthiness" and "praiseworthyness" are concepts that people are in general allergic to critical thought towards, and they are EXACTLY the concepts that people should be approaching in order to have a better life and to make a better world.