Honest question: Why do you feel the need to categorize your sexuality? I myself am 40 years old and still don't know which category I fit in. What need/itch do you fill by naming this part of your persona?
ace 🌈
Ace and nonaro (don't really label it any further personally)
I don't have a clue
No hurry, friend. It took me years.
I think more accurately, I know what it is, but I haven't worked out what it means for me
It's a process, hope you're enjoying figuring yourself out!
It's more stressful than anything ;)
Navigating split attraction and the correct labels is a challenge...
I'm a trans woman. I spent most of my life dating women, and even before I transitioned, I had come to accept that I'm not attracted to women, even though I've loved my partners. I started working through that, then I transitioned. I dated a woman not long after that and it didn't work out. I told myself it was because I loved her but wasn't attracted to her.
So, I stopped dating women. I called myself straight, because men and strongly masc aligned enbies are really the only people that I am attracted to (though not the only people I can fall in love with)
And that sucked. My queerness was invisible to folk. Most of my dating pool was actively not queer, and I never got what I was looking for in my relationships with men, despite my attraction to them.
And now I'm an amazing poly relationship with my girlfriend.
So I've mostly given up on labels and just settled on queer :)
What a journey! It sounds like the labels were holding you back rather than helping. I'm happy you found love and acceptance without having to navigate labels!
I've also had some experiences with labels holding me back, especially when I was questioning and didn't know how to answer when I was beginning to date other queers. A lot of people interpreted that as me being noncommital, unfortunately. Nowadays I've become a label collector, though I tend to share them on a need to know basis.
Another bi guy here :)
I'm abrosexual. That means my sexuality changes over time, a bit like being genderfluid.
My flag:
Pan/Bi but strait passing... Mostly.
Demi cis. I'm tempted to add "doomed", but I won't.
Can't we make a poll instead?
Is it possible to make a poll on Lemmy?
No, it's not. The best thing you can do at the moment is to provide options and ask people to upvote them.
Or link to surveymonkey or something I guess.
A gay dude ✨
im pan
Complicated, but not.
Complicated because I have a strained relationship with sexuality after several years in a cult.
Not complicated because I'm married (17 years) and primarily identify as a lesbian. Probably "lesbian-attracted asexual" may be a better description?
Gender-wise, transfem demigirl (she/any).
Pan as hell no matter what my imposter syndrome tells me!
Omnisexual, tho I usually call myself "Bi" when talking to others about it, as few people know about omnisexuality
What is the difference between omni and bi?
Omnisexuality is defined as an attraction to persons of any gender identity (incl non-binary), but gender does still matter for an omnisexual (so in my case for example, I'm attracted to everyone, but more strongly towards men and less towards non-men). Bisexuals are attracted to men and women, but could also be attracted to non-binary people (but not necessarily I think).
So I'd say there's very little difference between them, if any. It's more of a vibe-based thing, whatever label you like the most.
Thanks for telling me, for now I'm still bi. Hate this bi cycle shit tho. One week I'm nearly gay the next I'm attracted to everyone equally
Also a bi guy! Hi :)
Transenby
Hello fellow bi person
Lesbian
I’m a gay dude. \o/
I think the concept of sexuality needs to go away, tbh. I'm not straight because I am attracted to EVERY guy. And I'm not a lesbian because I am attracted to every woman. So what am I saying when I say that I am straight or gay?
The info I am giving then is who I am NOT attracted to. If I say I'm straight, I'm just saying 'I'm not attracted to women'. I'm not saying 'I'm attracted to every man.'
So I think the concept of sexuality is pretty stupid and everyone should just like whoever they like. It creates a lot of confusion otherwise, with straight and gay people worrying about whether they're 'doing sexuality right'. It's nonsense. Bin it.
I'm confused as to where you got the idea that having a sexuality means you're attracted to every single person of a certain sex. It just means that you can be attracted to people of that sex. I'm bisexual but I have standards, I'm not attracted to every person on earth. Sexuality categorization is useful to quickly contextualize discussions about sex and relationships in this world where heterosexual is assumed to be the default unless explicitly specified otherwise. Doing away with sexuality would only add confusion and wasted time. For example: looking for advice in gay dating but receiving advice about straight dating (that doesn't apply to gay dating because the cultures and dynamics are very different) when there's no terminology to tell them apart.
I'm only attracted to women, but I have an erogenous zone up my butt and I love getting blowjobs.
It's complicated.
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