I agree, people should not be harassed for the way they identify themself, and i guess you're right that only you can identify yourself, but i still have questions. Those are personal, tough and existential, so i don't mind if you prefer not to answer them. They're vaguely related to the OP topic, some of them entirely unrelated to it, but after the fact that that the Drag incident made blahaj divided, which makes me sad, my wish, to find out the answers is ihe main reason why i've decieed to leave my previous comment in the first place.
Let's take you and what you said, for example: you said, that you have been in denial on the matter of your identity. How have you defined that you always were a woman, and not only since you identified yourself as one? What defines for you your identity as a woman? How have you assured that it's not a mere act you put on because it makes you feel happy, and that you wouldn't drop it as soon as you'll get bored? I'm asking, because i (amab) am kinda uncertain of myself. I came to a conclusion that i still identify myself as male, i still am in fact male, only that i don't want to conform to the gender norms. So how do you know that you're not in the same state as me, that you're actually of other gender, not the one you were assigned at birth? How are you certain that you're not just mimicking the gender because you're attracted to it?
Sorry that i bother you with all those questiuns. As i said, i am still uncertaim of myself, so since you've decided to transition, that might mean that you've found some objective criteria, that will help me define myself as well.
guess that's just a wishful thinking