https://woem.men/notes/9ragjwecxwul3nis
So it looks like they basically have to follow German law, so if some nazi troll or (or in this case your ex) files an unverified report, the company will just give you 24hrs to delete your server. I can imagine hosting a bunch of tankie content won't go over well in Germany.
Hetzner recently started removing mastodon instances for having queer content on them. I wouldn't go with them.
Nothing of value was lost.
WHERE IS MY HEALTHCARE, JOE?
Regardless, I would respect her wishes as an individual and continue to love her as a friend. She's requesting that space and her autonomy should be respected even if things seem perfect otherwise. Maybe she'll change her mind, but I would not operate on that assumption or it will create unhealthy behaviors and poison the well.
I would take what you've learned from her about friendship and community and apply it elsewhere. Whether it's a polyamorous or monogamous or a series of flings or platonic friendgroups, whatever you need to move yourself in a forward direction. She can support you as your friend as you grow your community and/or romantic life and you can support her as her friend and not her prospective lover. She would probably appreciate you working to better yourself.
Love is the drive for community, to grow with another person or people in order to build something greater than yourselves. Infatuation and Passion can be expressions of love, but they are not love in-itself.
Infatuation in the absence of love is simply a desire for possession, a drive to make a person yours as though they're a resource to be harvested. Infatuated love can fade to pure possessiveness or boomer-esque disdain when the situation develops in a way that wasn't expected. To really love someone, you have to be prepared for them to change.
An easy example of this is when the love a parent has for their child fades when that child wishes to transition. True love would work through the change in order to value the person over their static "role" in the family structure.
In romantic love this can come in the form of pregnancy, increased dependence, increased independence, failing to contribute to the family economy, and a myriad of other reasons, some as simple as boredom when the New Relationship Energy fades off.
New Relationship Energy fueled by infatuation can mask a lot of incompatibilities, and when things fade you might find genuine feelings were for a person who only exists in your head. I believe this is what your friend is worried about.
I was actually in a similar situation as a teenager from which I moved on. If she's a lot more experienced than you she might be clocking incompatibilities that are inconsequential with you two being "just" friends, but could create drama when the NRE wears off.
Posting because this made me think of y'all. 
Just as the founding fathers intended.
BREAKING NEWS: JD Vance has just been devoured by Donald Trump for consistent lack of rizz
Hello - I'm Anne Ogborn, the director of Trans Rescue.
We've had some wonderful folks step forward, but it's clear to us that we weren't clear in the original call for volunteers.
We're assembling a media team because we know we're going to have to educate a lot of American trans people about how to get out of the USA if we're not to be caught flat footed by the election next November. So we're asking for help primarily to develop educational content. We might do some fundraising among it (we do need money to operate), but the primary push is going to be educating fellow trans* folks on their options and about the complexities of migrating, and motivating folks to do what they need to do.
Anyway, if anyone out there would like to help with this project, please drop me a line at annie@transrescue.org
Thanks
Annie
Forwarding this to its own thread so that it gets back on the TL for visibility. Please bump (or pin) at your discretion. 
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Guys, why does my back hurt?
Per wikipedia they only have 36 F-35s in Israel.