Jessicat

I haven’t been dating online since 2021 so I can’t really comment on the current scene ^.^ I hope it treats you well!

Truth

I treated internet dating as a numbers game. Hard to get too upset about someone initially just not responding. It would feel more personal to me when we would be talking for a bit and they would just ghost. Your comparison is fair, people put varying levels of effort into their relationships in general.

Yeah I get that. A lot of (male) matches on bumble didn’t engage with me either after I sent a message. I’m not a wordsmith by any means but I always tried to mention something I saw in their profile and ask a question. I figured if anything it showed a bit of effort as a minimum. Never tried tinder.

It worked for me :) Found my awesome husband there. Agreed though, there are definitely women who expect to be pursued.

I’m in the process of quitting Reddit. It was weird, some person commented dozens of times and started reposting the same question on the same comment because we disagreed. After I asked the person to leave me alone (I know… I was naive and hopeful), they commented again with the same question multiple times, I told them to fuck off. I got flagged by Reddit for harassment and now I’m shadow banned. It’s basically made the app useless to me. I don’t get why that’s a policy, if they’re banning my account they should just tell me and give me a chance to appeal or just block it. Instead, they operate in this weird gray space of making the experience terrible so you just leave. Sad because I enjoyed a closed community there but the general mods are just the worst. Lemmy will probably be better for my mental health though so silver linings :)

Sigh, we live in the shittiest timeline.

So glad that she found the right family. I know that rehoming gets a bad rap online but I don’t see a problem with it if you take the time to find a good situation for your pet. You can’t plan for everything and sometimes personalities are not compatible for whatever reason. It’s about what’s best for them.

She’s orange and a very mixed bag lol. Great at home but a total psycho at the vets - we give her all the drugs for that. She does drink water though :) I love the strategies that hoomans devise for their kittens. They are a pretty silly lot.

I was told by the vet that my cat had the crappy tooth gene when she was young. I did yearly dentals for the first four years of my cats life when she ate wet only. After that I switched her to kibble breakfast and wet dinner and her teeth haven’t needed cleaning in almost five years so I’m quite pleased. She drinks plenty of water on her own so that’s not a concern and she actually chews the kibble which is awesome!

So cute! Consider checking their teeth regularly. When my cat was on wet food only she needed yearly dentals.