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[–] arcine@jlai.lu 16 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago) (4 children)

We need to build bathrooms differently.

Only one main room with sinks ; completely closed stalls with actual walls ; no urinals.

Edit : and also PLEASE put a coat hanger in there ! I dont want to have to choose between holding my coat in my arms, or dropping it on the toilet's floor...

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

Don't forget a box to throw menstrual pads into!

Imho, the ideal bathroom should have:

  • Enough space (1 by 1.5 m, 2.5 m tall), fully enclosed stall.
  • A sit-down toilet
  • A box to throw menstrual pads into
  • A toilet brush for cleaning
  • A coat hanger at eye height
  • Plenty of toilet paper, duh

As an accessibility, cleanliness, and efficiency bonus, you could also add for bigger and/or public toilets:

  • Lowered seat, shuttable arm rests
  • Foldable changing tables
  • Hand cream to clean hands (or a proper sink, not a tiny ass one; the towel should be above the sink. Also, if it's a sink, it shouldn't be in an inconvenient spot).
  • The lights turn on when the door is locked, and turn off only when the door is unlocked.
  • Toilets clean themselves.
[–] magic_smoke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago)

Had this in a hotel in new York for their shared bathrooms they let me used when I grabbed my bags after checkout.

Absolutely fucking adore the concept, esp. as a trans lady.

[–] StinkySocialist@lemmy.ml 4 points 19 hours ago

Been saying this for years. Couldn't agree more.

Changing the way bathrooms are built can be better for everyone. Changing rooms in gyms too. Let's make these areas more private.

[–] Hupf@feddit.org 5 points 20 hours ago

Or, as I've seen multiple times already, have some stalls with urinals in them.

[–] JennyLaFae@lemmy.blahaj.zone 25 points 1 day ago

I like to ask them why their solution to men being dangerous in the women's restroom is to send a subset of women into the men's room where they're at greater risk from men.

[–] twinnie@feddit.uk 83 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This whole argument is stupid. If a cis man is willing to abuse a woman then a “No boys allowed” sign on the door isn’t going to stop them.

[–] Blibly@lemmy.world 70 points 1 day ago (1 children)

At this point I'm not sure they even care if cis men go into the women's room and rape them. They just don't want trans women to exist. Period.

[–] EggInDisguise@lemmy.blahaj.zone 31 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This is how it's always been.

[–] Malyca@lemmy.zip 54 points 1 day ago (1 children)

There's no logic it's all manufactured bullshit

[–] manuallybreathing@lemmy.ml 3 points 21 hours ago

Enforcing strict gender roles, monogamy, and heterosexual-ism, allows men to track their heirs, for wealth consolidation and the upholding slavery, capitalism

read the origin of the family, private poperty, and the state, and trangender warrior

[–] TheOctonaut@piefed.zip 14 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I'm not defending them here but if this person doesn't understand that they don't believe transgender is a real thing and every person who wants to be transgender is really a cisgender pervert, I'm not sure how clearer they can be?

[–] RamenJunkie@midwest.social 8 points 21 hours ago

Which is so wild because like, that's a LOT to put ones self through just to perv women. I think it was an SNL or Daily Show bit where they pushed that like, there isn't a bouncer at the door of the women's bathrooms, if some dude just wanted to perv on women he could just, go in. He doesn't need to go and "pretend to be a woman" with all the therapty and medication etc.

Also, porn exists and is free.

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 8 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

"They" never ever mention trans_men_

[–] manuallybreathing@lemmy.ml 2 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

people mention trans men when its convenient, and its always a kind of pittying misogyny, and also about how shit cis men are

joanne klan rowling announced her support for Transgender Exclusionary Radical Feminism by making a making clear she thinks teenage girls are transitioning to escape men, which she may have also done if someone had been similarly deceived when she was young and foolish, or whatever.

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 2 points 20 hours ago

What the actual fuck is that woman's poisoned brain

[–] Lojcs@piefed.social 5 points 23 hours ago

I think there's more to it than that. They think those two are the same but not everyone in their audience might. I think the point is to create guilt by association in the reader's mind. Say those words together enough times and some people will start attributing the assault to the trans woman even if they empirically know trans women and cis men aren't the same

[–] cupcakezealot@piefed.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)

they also want to force all women to go through police just to go to the loo when the met is the one with an institutional predatory nature.

[–] alanjaow@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago

They want all women to stay in the house and not be able to leave or vote. "Make America Great Again", but only great for white guys with tempers.

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 4 points 1 day ago

Wow! That's a body slam and a half, that one! Woot!