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Maybe I'm misunderstanding, but couldn't you use this item and pour the ice into a bowl before you add it to the coffee? Feels like it would solve the dripping water issue at the very least, and take up less space in the freezer as well

No one is saying that would be easy, but it does very much sound like a risk of putting too much stock on one person.

What's the fix...? o.o

If you go in with that attitude, though, are you there to try to convert people to your side. Or are you only there to berate them and make yourself feel better for having done so?

That doesn't mean you put up with bad faith engagement. That doesn't mean you allow them to burden you with the emotional and mental weight of the argument. That they can watch the consequences without fear of it harming their self is exactly why you need to watch your language. They lose nothing staying where they are, you need to convince them to give up resources (mental, emotional, financial) of their own to take up your position.

So, don't put up with bullshit, and you don't have to be nice about it, but you do have to be patient of your goal is to actually convert people over. Not everyone's role is to convert people, though, some people are only fighters. Just make sure the fighting is directed in the right places.

While true that they could have searched on the internet, in the time it took you to berate them you could given them am answer.

Also, this is Lemmy, you should have said "you can DDG it".

For the second situation, it isnt always that they want to be asked the question. Sometimes they noticed a change in your behavior recently and are checking in on you.

Example, you're eating lunch and you love chocolate pudding. You usually eat your chocolate pudding every day without fail. Today, you didn't eat your chocolate putting and just left it sitting there.

A: "Hey" B: "Hey" A: "So... what's up?"

Regardless, "what's up" is just a place holder for "how are you". Sometimes that is just small talk and a way of fulfilling simple social interaction, and sometimes it is a question with genuine interest in knowing what is going on in your life (or asking you first, so they feel comfortable sharing what is going on in their own life).

I always find it easiest to give a simple and short, but honest, response, and elaborate further if they show interest with follow up questions. Of course, giving them information you are comfortable giving that person.

A: "What's up?" B: "Not much, I'm a little tired today. You?"

or

A: "What's up?" B: "Kind of sad, but I don't want to talk about it."

It doesn't have to be a big celebration, but I like to keep specific dates for holidays I celebrate with friends and family. It helps It feel special to me, like it's something worth celebrating and carrying on a tradition of. Not that I am against celebrating the smaller things with loved ones more frequently, but a birthday on that actual day, Christmas (with or without religious connotations) with friends, or Friendsgiving, all feel extra special when celebrated on the day of the holiday rather than the Tuesday after.

That last two sentences of yours? That was the entire point

Do you just mean the art showing them as the same size? Because that's common in a lot of infovraphics to not be to scale if they are clearly labeled

Games, books, music, and travel are all great hobbies to find people to tall about as well, though! You just have to find ways to make them social. Sitting and playing CoD alone or with random match making aren't great ways to meet people, but getting involved in a discord server is a better way to meet people. Better still if you can find a local, in-person group that hosts meet-ups.

But if you want to meet people amd make friends, you need to make time to meet people and form relationships with them.

It sounds like you're dealing with a lot of stress and anxiety, too, if you're on a "hair trigger" with your emotions. Some self care and/or therapy may help with some of it, but you sound like you're on the right track already. Try to be aware of when you feel that way, try to identify why the situation makes you feel that way, ask yourself what you can do in that situation too change anything, and try to view the situation from other perspectives (doesn't have to be from the perspective of the person making you angry, but can be a stranger viewing the situation from the outside).

Best of luck to you! And keep in mind that by just wanting to improve yourself in this way, you're already take a step more than most people!

Someone close enough to be expected to gift, but distant enough to not know them well and only know "they like techy stuff".

Like, I get that it isn't the best gift for OP, and I dont presume to know their relational status with the gift giver, but there are plenty of ways this could be a well-intentioned thoughtful gift that just didn't hit the mark...