Married 30 years. His check goes into one account. Mine goes into another. We both have access to all accounts. I handle all the bills. We used to put both into one checking account - once our debt card was stolen and they spent so much money that we were still negative after both checks went in. Then we split them so there'salways a backup just in case.

I know that one about play play play. Someone karaoked it last Halloween at a friend's party.

Maybe he's trying a non-antiperspirant deodorant? There are several brands and some work better than others. You could start start that discussion with him?

I've called them several times to get a report for car break in or vandalism. Once i got a check from a victim fund for my broken window and missing stuff. Called them because someone in a scream mask was banging on my front door at 3am.

The only time I've ever really felt suicidal was when I was on antidepressants. Then it was more just feeling insignificant, like one of a bajillion people on the Earth and if I die that's just part of the natural turnover. I'm impulsive and quick to anger, so I know that I can't own a gun. I have a lot of thoughts of destruction that i try to keep in check - holding a stack of plates at a friend's house and want to drop them, what if I put my wedding ring in the garbage disposal, If there's a car stopped on a bridge and I hit it will it go over, I'm afraid of heights because I want to push. When I was a kid, the thing I first noticed was sometimes wishing for bad things to happen- and that's what I now think of as self-sabotage. Is it worse to have a car accident or go to work? If I get a letter from the IRS, am I more excited if it's a check or a bill? Either way, if I throw it away, will they send another?

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Short bursts of great stuff are better than long periods of shitty stuff.

If an annual pass to a museum is $100, i would spend two day's dollars buying 3-day passes to lots of different museums for a friend and me. Do we auto transport to the city? Or does the museum just appear at my house?

On the other days i would take a couple of laps around a track in some cool cars, have sips of some very expensive whiskey, and ride short sections of trains around the world.

During the week i would search the internet to find great $1 specials at bars all over the world and on weekends i would slowly have a beer on a beach in Mexico, vermouth in Barcelona, coffee in Modena, a mojito in havana, ...

I think my dad's family got cheese. I assumed it was because they were native American. I don't remember ever trying it - i just saw a couple of big blocks that said CHEESE on a shelf.

My son is vegan and he makes fun of himself - If you vape, you're vegan, and you're in a band; which one do you talk about first? Was funnier a few years ago when people carried around those giant vapes. We harassed him a lot for saying, "i can't eat that" - well, yes you can, but you choose not to- so, now he'll say he prefers to avoid animal products. If people ask, be honest and answer succinctly - I'm trying it to see if it makes me feel better, or whatever. The hate isn't from choosing your own food. It's from the endless conversations and superior, more informed attitude about it - same as anyone who makes one thing their identity - politics, religion, etc.

When i read the headline i thought it was about the Wisconsin State Bar.

I mentioned that i had concerns about myself when i was about 12. It wasn't dismissed, but it was clear that attempting to address it at that time would be too difficult. I keep it put away as much as i can, only mentioning the intrusive thoughts when i can play it as a joke - not sure if that feels better or worse. After 40 years, I'm finally beginning to recognize the tendency towards self sabotage but still struggle with not giving in to it.