Rant

So, my ex Issac (19nb, ~16nb at the time) [pronouns he/they] was my friend from therapy group. He was really friendly towards me (and handsome!) so I (at the time 15f) started to have a slight crush on him.

At one point, he casually mentioned that he had a partner, so I decided not to proceed any further and let the feelings die.

Since, at the time, his phone got taken away, I couldn’t get any contact information from him, when he left the group and therapy group ended with the leader getting a new job somewhere else, I didn’t see Issac for a while.

I moved on forever. I didn’t like him anymore and never would that way, or so I thought.

I still go to therapy, just with a new therapist. While I was waiting to talk to her one day, I saw Issac again playing a video game on his phone. I was ecstatic, and started chatting with him.

I got his contact information and we started to become friends again. Issac became the kind of guy with a ton of friends, but he’s also dependent on drugs and alcohol, and was high or drunk (or both) 75% of the time we called.

Issac is currently dating a man, Ryan. However, Issac’s bi, so he can also be attracted to women. I found out I was one of those women, and it clearly ruined our friendship.

Talking to him, I started to gain old feelings, though I didn’t realize it until the day he confessed.

He confessed on a call that he liked me, and wondered what I would do if he “hypothetically did”. I said I wouldn’t care, because I liked him too and started liking him a few years back and a few months after we met.

I knew about his BF Ryan, but since he said that he was in an open relationship, I (wrongly) took that to mean Ryan was okay with him seeing other people.

Issac asked me later if we were official, and I said yes.

For a few days, we had a honeymoon stage, where we would be very happy and he would discuss how pretty I was and how badly he wanted to kiss me. This phase quickly faded.

He started to almost completely cut contact with me and act very anxious, apparently because he felt bad that Ryan didn’t even know about us.

He eventually told Ryan, who said he’d have to think about it, and then said they were exclusive, so we broke up.

I was upset for many reasons, but Issac was just like “I like him more than you?! I’m already dating him!!”

I still like him as we just broke up but I’m trying to move on. I can’t even talk about things because Issac is just completely leaving my messages on read, saying he’s typing, then not responding.

We have lived here for the last 10 years. We always pay our water bill. Occasionally, we'll forget and receive a final notice for our water bill which we will promptly pay.

Tonight at 8 pm, a city police officer banged on our door with a blinding flashlight in hand. Made me verify my identification and then handed me my water bill (the due date being a week from now)

What the hell!

This rant is directed towards myself. I'm sending myself to bed without supper.

There are a lot of assumptions being made about the yeti's character, without anything to go by.

normally, i would, but what point is there? even if she has a bad day, she’s not going to learn her lesson. she has diagnosed npd and a bunch of other mental illnesses (untreated) and cannot accept fault.

even if she is sad, NO amount of sadness she has will be as large as the damage she’s done, nor will it fix anything at all.

Notes:

My sister Lena (14F) sent me these pictures (so “Me” is Lena, not me) and said I could use them as long as the names were blacked out for advice and such.

Ashlyn (blue, 14F) apparently has NPD, which could be a reason but doesn’t excuse her behavior. She is known for being an overall rude person, especially towards Lena, and is also known for exaggerating, giving vague explanations, not able to identify people and messing up timing on things (bringing up drama that happened “recently” when it either never happened or was weeks ago), and even lying that people don’t like Lena when they clearly do. Lena’s confusion makes me wonder if half of the stuff even happened, and if it did, possibly not in the way Ashlyn tried to convince her it did.

Due to Ashlyn being vague a lot, Lena will ask her what she’s talking about and Ashlyn will get mad and insult her.

I’ve also observed that people say that Ashlyn’s interactions and reasons to be angry at people is often odd and not natural, with stories often exaggerated and fabricated like I already said to prove a point.

Most people Lena talks to don’t even seem to be too fond of Ashlyn and say Lena was far kinder/more respectful than Ashlyn was, ever.

so many people say they support me even if i have autism and bipolar. they say they don’t mind, that they want to help me. they’re lying. they take it for granted, think i’m weird for something i cant control, take advantage of me and abuse me.

my friend lied about being this very supportive person who believes in equality. she hates me for being bipolar and autistic. she lied.

a girl broke up with me because im bipolar. she called me a creep and a psychopath.

she yells at me for everything. she hits me (not hard) ruins my mental health, doesnt want me talking to anyone besides her.

she says everyone hates me, that only she likes me. then she said that me not knowing social skills and being mentally ill was stupid and that im a terrible person. she told me i should die.

she hates me bc i have a disability, she tried to strangle me once and claim it was a joke. i hate her so much. i have to see her every day.

stop trying to give me an ultimatum, saying i’ll go to hell or that we can’t be friends if i don’t pray.

if i’m uncertain that god exists because there’s NO PROOF EITHER WAY for me.

i’m not a “perfect” straight christian woman like you are, i’m not going to change myself because my looks “tempt” men. i dress for me, not for men.

i don’t CARE if same-gender relationships are “sins” and you’ll go to hell. there are some pro-lgbt churches. i don’t care if “all women are for is to complement men and they’re inferior and they should only be with other men for that reason”.

this shit makes me so mad. i don’t have to be religious if i don’t want to be. there’s this one straight christian woman i know and she hates other women it’s so annoying, and she claims to support the lgbt but “doesn’t care about gay/trans rights”.

omfg shut up, there’s some actual kind christians despite me not being one myself, but these people obviously aren’t.

if you’re genuinely curious as to whether i pray, am christian/religious, or go to church, then that’s fine, but DON’T TRY TO FORCE ME. i thought christianity preached acceptance??

But have you ever heard of womanwalking?

It's known to happen when two or more women are walking down a pathway, engaged in conversation. They must walk parallel with each other, and everyone else trying to share the pathway be fucked. These womanwalkers will often look you in the eye as they force you off the pathway.

For like 12 years I've worked in the service industry. That means sporadic hours and shifts that can happen whenever. About a year ago though I got a 9:00 to 5:00 job and it has been absolute hell trying to live my life as I have. How do normal people do this? All the business hours of places that you need to go, the bank, the doctors, the post office. Office they're closed by the time you get off of work. I have to actually call off of work just to get anything done. There's no way the majority of people are living like this, right?

Jesus Christ. That was the shortest amount of time I’ve ever been part of a social media site. It was overwhelming & everything was locked behind a subscription to separate accounts. So I couldn’t take part in many chats. I want to be an informed citizen but that place seemed like the devil himself. Additionally I got like 20 emails from everyone I followed. It was constantly pushing notifications about things I couldn’t participate in because I wasn’t a paying member. I’ll stick to mastodon.

TLDR. I tried to get the news & such off Substack & then deleted Substack.

(Saw some random Internet post a while ago about a guy who wouldn’t stop harassing his “friend”)

Seriously, people kept saying that “people of the opposite gender can’t be friends”, and for the specific example I saw, if a woman posts about being friends with a guy while she has a boyfriend, and something happens with her and the guy friend that’s she didn’t ask for, apparently it was her fault and “she asked for it” and she also cheated on her boyfriend??

And people say they feel bad for the boyfriend and that the guy did nothing wrong for having an innocent crush on her if he pressures her into sex/a relationship? It’s always the woman’s fault. “Obviously, women can’t even talk to men besides their boyfriend, totally!”

So… can gay men with boyfriends not have man friends? Straight men and lesbians can’t have woman friends?

A similar thing actually happened to me, a woman, with a guy friend, and I’m dating a WOMAN. (I wasn’t dating anyone at the time, but the guy still didn’t care about how I felt. Even if he said he did and was always like “with your consent, of course”, I knew he didn’t care about who I was as a person or my consent. He just wanted to guilt-trip and pressure me into being his girlfriend because that’s all I was to him: some hot lady who was evil for saying no.

(Of course, this goes for anyone, and everyone can be friends with everyone regardless of gender, this just specifically talks about women because that’s what happened in the post.)

my family is always fighting and everyone instantly starts yelling. If someone outside saw it theyd think we're unhinged. it is horrible, we get along most of the time but sometimes something flares up and it makes my stomach turn. i try and get everyone to be calm and accept what the others are saying and respect them but then theyre just stubborn and agitate me to the point i lose it myself. what do?

My sister Lena is 14. She has this one “friend” who is very odd from what I’ve seen? She’s known for being rude to almost anyone who isn’t popular at her school and yells at Lena for stupid crap.

She tells Lena she’s horrible at everything, talks behind her back, says she can’t be in her friend group, then says she’s “joking”.

Whenever something happens to anger the friend, she blames Lena and when she gets punished, she seems to have the mindset of “If I’m going down, Lena is going down with me.”

Lena came to the U.S. with our family when she was nine, so this friend is also very focused on her being foreign and won’t stop talking about her being white for some reason?

From what I know and have seen from this girl coming over sometimes, she finds random things to discriminate people for and also “almost” says the N-word (You “ni.. ninja!) against dark-skinned people or the K-word (“kite” instead of…) against Jewish people to “be funny”.

Lena’s other friend who came over one day also told me that the friend was discriminatory, finding random reasons to insult someone (even them because they’re neurodivergent), and that they were having problems with her.

I’m helping Lena figure it out. Lena doesn’t hang out with this girl for now, but I still gotta rant. Why are people even like this?

no, my girlfriend is NOT responsible for genocide. she is not a terrorist just because her mom happens to be arab.

she was born in POLAND, her father’s country, and then moved to the us at 5. either way, no control over what other governments were doing.

even as a citizen in poland/the us, she was not working for the government, and at 5, was a just a child.

and her speaking arabic with her mother is not because she’s a spy. she’s a normal woman trying to live a normal life.

in fact, my paternal grandmother is from cuba. is everyone from my dad’s/grandma’s side of the family communist now?!

lots of people type similar. in fact, many people type in all lowercase such as myself. you don’t know who someone is behind the screen. you don’t know someone’s identity from their typing style.

why do you think No Stupid Questions exists in the first place?? why do you think people ask for help/advice?? if they’re not going around saying rude/absurd crap or anything to get a reaction, it could just be someone with a weird question.

just because someone types similar to someone who was a troll or bad person does not mean that it’s their alt or that they are the same person.

i see this a lot with people assuming that account c is an alt account because account c and account a agree and disagree with account b, or because account b said something rude to account a and account c explained/defended account a. yeah, people can agree on something without being the same person.

if your comment gets -3 votes, it’s unlikely that 3 alts downvoted you, you just said something people disagree with.

I swear, 2/3 of the account blocks I make on Lemmy end up originating from posts to this sub, by accounts typically less than a week or two old. It's like, get a job.

Obviously, not everyone is like this, if you’re not like this, I don’t mean you.

You can hate the Russian government or the culture or whatever, but you shouldn’t hate people. You shouldn’t hate people of Russian descent just because of where they came from, because of the language they speak, because of what the russian government is doing.

(Idk if this is a rant, i need to talk about it though)

I get attached to my friends easily, unfortunately 😓

I have a lot of anxiety and I usually feel like I need to be online and chatting with them.

I develop a fixation with a specific person that can last from a week to several months

Sometimes I feel like I have to avoid them or be irritated with them for some reason, but I think I'm more irritated with myself.

This feeling is different from a falling in love

Very similar to a falling in love, my day becomes much better and I become more energetic when I see them but without the anxious feelings and I don't want to go out with them.

But I think I can act quite normal with them and since I'm in love, I don't feel attached to any of my friends.

my friend always thinks she's better than everyone at everything. no matter what i do, I'm useless and horrible at everything to her, and she ditches me because I'm nerdy and not the most popular and because I don't like sports. she hangs out with the popular girls and talks about me to them and why they should exclude me if I ask to hang out with them.

most of the time, though, she's nice. it's only usually in gym class, but it's been happening a lot lately.

she's usually nice to me and hangs out regardless of sports or my social status, but like I said, she's been really rude lately.

she also pushes me and tells me to get out of her face but then says it's "just a joke"...

(I was gonna put this on an LGBT community but I can’t find one I’m looking for that’s just for talking)

Okay, that’s good for you that you thought you only liked women until you met your boyfriend, but that doesn’t mean that some man is gonna magically make me like men more.

I say I’m bi/perhaps omni because there are men I would still date, and they’re sorta like exceptions for me. But if not, I’d say I was a lesbian. Anyway, there was a period where I did think I might have been a lesbian.

Whenever the topic comes up/I mention it for whatever reason, maybe for advice, whatever, I tell my friend, and they say something like “Oh, I used to think I only liked girls too until I met my handsome boyfriend ❤️”

And: “Maybe one day a man will change your life and point of view just like a man changed mine <33”

I’m happy for you and your BF, and I’m glad that you figured out you liked men too. I’m happy it worked for you, but like I said, some people aren’t attracted to men. A man isn’t going to “fix them” or “change their life”.

I don’t need a man to make me realize that I really like guys all along or anything. I get that some people are just trying to relate to the situation and that’s fine, but I’ve gotten this response a lot and needed to rant a little.